I don't know what to do...

Its really hard at the beginning but it will get easier. Why don’t you ask hubby to look after Bub in the morning when he wake up so you can have a nap. We used to do that with our first one. Because I breastfeed, hubby can’t really do much. So in the morning he let me sleep while he hang out with bub. Have a chat with him about how you feel also will helps. Make sure you tell him how you feel and ask his help. Like I said it will get easier.

Hey girl Feel free to message me at night when you feel lonely I’m in the same boat but Bub is 2 weeks

It's soo hard at the beginning but it absolutely gets better after a few weeks. I was the same, i was induced for 4 days before having baby so i think i got max about 11 hours sleep in them 4 days before having baby, first two nights after having baby i didn't sleep AT ALL and then. for the next week or so after that i was having 2 hours sleep a night maximum and it was soul destroying, i cried everyday from exhaustion but anytime anyone said to sleep for a few hours and they'll watch baby i wouldn't let them until one day i did i let my mum watch him while i slept on couch near to them and after i woke up i felt a whole new person, maybe if someone offers to watch baby at your home while u sleep say yes it's the best thing i did. Also in regards to checking on baby constantly u could look at a snuza hero or owelt sock, they're both quite good and deffo look at what each one does more in depth to decide what's best for u, u can get them both on vinted for a good price!! x

..... the nights do become easier, you'll go from 5 wakes a night down to 3 and then down to 1 then to none and u won't even realise until it's happened, even getting 6 hours of broken sleep makes u feel a lot better than the hardly any atm. Does your partner work and this is why he doesn't help? or does he just not help at night, maybe speak to him let him know you're exhaustion,'if can be awful for your mental health tell him you can't function without hours hours sleep, even if he did a 2 hour slot on an evening or a morning of staying awake with baby, then feeds baby so they sleep for a couple of hours to given 4-5 hours of unbroken sleep it would make the world of difference. My partner was same didn't even feed baby ever until he was about 5 weeks, it was awful but i gave him an ultimatum and he's helped a lot more since x

I agree with Abby, even though it goes against everything our guts are telling us, get someone you can trust to babysit while u get some sleep. But these are very temporary days, they will pass and it will get easier, stay strong 💪 you can get through this. But for ur own sanity, get some help, from your husband or somebody u can trust. Its true that it takes a village to raise a child.

@Lidya I would but had some medical problems that make him twitch sometimes and his shoulders like the lock up alot. He's still not comfortable help baby for long period of time. We can get maybe 10 mins here and there.

@Abby, he got the week off, but like I said in my other reply, he's still not comfortable watching baby completely with the medical problems he has. We're trying to work on it. He thinking of maybe getting next week off, too. He does get up at night when I need him to get him his bottle.

Do you have a family member who can stop by and help whose more comfortable with babies a grandparent or someone? Even an hour or two helps! It’s gets easier but the sleep is rough for a while I still struggle with it at times I’d really talk and try to get your partner more comfortable with it as for your mental health and safety of being over tired! Maybe start with 30mins or so and increase a little bit each time?

@Abby I've heard reviews about the owlet sock burning babies feet tho

Our baby is 3 weeks, and for the first two weeks I was in the same boat as you. Now my fiancé and I work in shifts - I'll get to sleep from 6 PM to 11 PM (pumping in between) and then he'll get to sleep (he needs more than me because he works). If possible, I'd suggest working a schedule like this with your husband. You need to heal and in order to do that you need sleep. I also ended up adding an anxiety med temporarily that helps me calm down enough to take a nap.

ooh i'm not sure i haven't seen anything about that, the snuza hero does the same thing you attach it to their nappy and it tracks their breathing if owt happens it vibrates for 10 seconds to try wake baby up if they doesn't work it beeps for a few seconds to try wake baby up and if that doesn't work there's an alarm that goes off! xxx

I second what @Abby says about the snuza go, we used it and it brought so much peace of mind! ♥️

I also highly recommend the snuzza hero md. It has a little green light that flashes every time baby breathes so you can see it without getting up, and the option to have a tiny click noise every time too x

You’re in the trenches right now but it gets better. My boy is almost 5 months old and it’s a lot easier. You learn their cries, as to what they need. You’re learning to be a mum as the boy is learning to be a baby. You’re both in this together 🩵 Please speak to your partner about how you feel, I didn’t - I was horrible to him all the time even when he was doing right. At the 6 week check GP put me on meds and I feel much better in myself too. You’re not alone xx

Yeah, the newborn phase is really tough. It does get better though. Hang in there and ride the wave. You will come out the other side.

The solution is obviously for your partner to help more.

@Stephanie were working on it. Like i said in previous replys he's have some condition that make him nervous/scared to be with him alone. But we're working on it. I've been getting better and sleeping in small increments at night and if I'm tired during the day he'll keep an eye on him and if he does need me he'll wake me