Xl bully

Nope not at all, it’s a recipe for for disaster or even fatal. Stick to your gut. This is coming from a dog trainer myself!x

Unfortunately how the law is he can’t get rid? I’m sorry my dog fell into typing and he was here first. I could never put him down, if you don’t want the dog around the baby while still small how is the dog goingto bond ? I feel it is abit unreasonable as what your asking is for him to put his dog down?

Coming from a person with a large breed dog, yes you are. That dog is a member of the family, not something that can just be ‘got rid of’. XL bullies have the huge stigma about them now, that’s they’re these awful aggressive nasty dogs when actually they’re some of the nicest dogs I’ve had the pleasure of meeting. Whilst I appreciate you may not want your baby around the dog, it is your responsibility to care for your child. You need to take it upon yourself to keep them separate should that be what you want to do and not ask your partner to get rid of his baby. I’d get rid of my partner before I got rid of my dog 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Joy I just don’t feel it is worth risking my baby every day for a dog. I have tried to compromise and I am willing to leave my own home and move back to my mom’s so he can keep the dog. But I just don’t think it’s fair on either of us

Here comes all the XL bully haters in the comments! You just need to keep a normal distance as you would any dog. I have a staff with my baby and she’s never left alone with him. I also had an XL bully previously with my ex and his 2 children. They are lovely dogs if they are trained well and with the right owners.

@Holly look I’ve been brought up around dogs my whole life and I’ll never leave a baby with a dog on its own even my own boy but to basically tell him to choose his dog or you and your child is harsh with how the law is he cannot rehome the dog it’s a case of the dog will be put down and I just wouldn’t be able to justify it, try figuring out how you can work around the dog been at home along with your baby and work out a way that the dog can also safely bond aswell

From somebody who has 3 big dogs (one being a German shepherd who also don’t have great reps for aggression) and two under two (please no hate) I think it’s very unreasonable. My dogs and my children are all my babies, if I met somebody who had a pet I would think ahead before having a baby and asking him to get rid of the dog. However, if you have concerns because the dog shows aggression or anything that’s completely different scenario but you haven’t said what your concerns are other than the breed which I assume you feel is the issues? If he were to get rid of the dog you’re basically asking him to kill his dog which is awful as I believe you aren’t able to rehome them now. If you want to try keep them separate then that’s always a possibility depending on the layout of your house but you’re trying to manipulate him to kill his dog or you’ll leave with his newborn baby. As I said please no hate I personally couldn’t see somebody put a healthy dog to sleep.

Sounds horrible but just going to be straight forward you Shouldn’t of had a baby with him if you knew he had a dog you wouldn’t be comfortable with having around a baby my friend has had an xl bully for years hes been around newborns, toddlers and cats not once been even close to hurting any of them a dog shouldn’t have to lose their home because a new baby comes along

I disagree, what’s the dog’s temperament like? How has it raised it? The Bully breed is actually one of the most softest and empathetic breeds. I had a Mastiff and a Miniature Pinscher and I’d sooner rather have left the mastiff with the baby than the Pinscher, however turns out the Pinscher is now the babies best mate. I agree to begin with for the first few years supervision is a must but there is no reason why the dog and baby cannot integrate with one another unless the dog has given you good reason to think not. Too many people have a baby then chuck the dog and I don’t agree.

We have a large breed (came before baby) and you just need to set boundaries and use common sense like not leaving them alone together. Keeping them completely separate will just create a hatred and make the situation worse. As long as the temperament of the dog is not aggressive, I don't see why it has to be an issue.

I think it entirely depends on the dogs temperament and your understanding and control over him, we had a Belgian Malinois when my middle was a baby and with him having the police dog reputation and background it was just very difficult for me to control him safely around a newborn, he was very protective over me but it made me become isolated and unable to have visitors or help around for the baby because he was always protecting me, he’s since passed away and with all of that in mind I’d never think about getting rid of him, it’s a very individual situation I think and you’ll get very mixed reviews here x

If a dogs a risk it wouldn’t matter what size it is. If the dog has had no aggressive behaviour I don’t see why you would want to move away from the dog when baby arrives. You just don’t leave the two alone together. Don’t let dog put his face in babies face. You’re being very unreasonable a dog is like a child if the bond is strong. And asking your partner to get rid of it is out of order. You chose to have a baby with this man knowing what dog breed he had. You can not suddenly change your mind if what you think is ok.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable- I know xl bullies don’t have a good rep by no fault of their own, but it’s still a worry. It’s a very powerful dog should something happen. I don’t think rehoming is a possibility for that breed of dog unfortunately. You could see how it goes, see how the dog responds and maybe once baby is here you’ll be wondering why you were worrying in the first place x

@Lauren 100% like my boy is daft as a brush and he’s never caused no harm! He’s trained he’s been around babys and young children a lot but never unsupervised as I was brought up that way, it’s the stigma that the government set out who haven’t even owned any of these ‘dangerous’ breeds those owners who do care have faced such backlash it’s unbelievable. My boy is like my first baby and he is not going anywhere he can’t wait for his baby to come he loves been involved in everything so he’s already started bonding in ways we can so it’s not a major change for him either ❤️

He can't get rid by law.

It's what you're comfortable with. MIL has an XL bully type dog who's been around kids but not babies. She's the most loving dog towards my little girl and will let her pull on her ears and chops and back. They're never left alone together (just like the rest of the family dogs). The thing with these types of dogs is that they look scary but are the best family pets for kids of all ages. I was worried about my mums dogs (German Shepherd cross labrador and poodle cross collie) as they'd never been around young kids. They both super loving and gentle with my little girl. Do what you're comfortable with and if that's staying with your mum at the beginning then do that and slowly introduce dog and baby

I can understand where you’re coming from, unfortunately I was attacked by an XL bully hence why I’d never ever let my child be around one. So, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable however, I think maybe wait for baby to arrive and see how the dog is around the baby.

@Mary Ive been attacked by an xl bully had a massive chunk of my leg ripped out and still have and love the most beautiful xl bully ever that xl bully that bit me was abused and beaten up her whole life ALL BREEDS BITE just some are bigger and some are smaller You can’t live life in fear because of one bad thing If someone died in a car crash are u never going to get in a car again If someone got hit by a bus are you never going to ride one again Bad things happen all the time 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Joy 100%! All of our dogs have grown around children / babies since puppies so the child being there is always just natural for ours but regardless boundaries and respect still has to be in place even more so with the large / powerful breeds. We had the staffy x , daniff x and a frenchie at once, our 2022 baby and 2023 baby - now just the daniff & frenchie (the kids & pregnant!) I’d choose the stereotyped dogs over a frenchie any day! She isn’t aggressive and she has a great temperament but my god she’s a filthy animal. Thing is with the large breeds it’ll always just move onto the next, the rotties, the pitties, the bullies, it’ll be mastiffs next then another one when they become the next scary fashion item. Like you said, social media and the government drilled fear into people with the breed - again jsut like rotties , pitties , GSDs and all the others!

@Jess I like what you said. That has given me a totally different view of what happened. I use to walk my daughter to nursery and since this happened I completely stopped. I’m just so scared to go out lol. But thanks for this, makes me think I should forget what happened and stop being afraid after all!

@Mary I’m so glad!! Honestly I’m a true believer of it’s the owner not the dog Life is for living and you should never let bad things dictate how you go about life and feel (easier said than done I know) but truly it’s always best to try and look forward rather than backward ❤️

@Chantelle the most vile comment.

@Jess your mind set around it is amazing, I wish more people thought like you!👏👏 I was bitten by a staff when I was 2/3 years old, under my eye I remember the after math but not the bite itself. Every dog I’ve owned (apart from my daniff) has always been a staffy or staffy cross. I’d get another one day, once I’ve healed from loosing mine in July! Edit to add - I looked at your profile and you wasn’t kidding your dog is gorgeous!🤍🤍

Just to add to this, we have a Cocker Spaniel - arguably one of the most common 'family' dogs - I wouldn't even leave my LG with him alone - I trust him and he even let's our girl take toys off of him and sit next to him if he is eating his dinner (obviously we discourage and give our doggo a treat) Breed has nothing to do with this - a dog and a baby shouldnt be left alone together - having said that, our 2 cats would be more likely to go for our LG then our dog.

@Lauren Thank you that makes me so happy!! 🥰 It’s so hard when it’s happened to you but I feel if you have experienced it and can get past it then you soon realise that there was no reason to worry in the first place 🤍 It’s just on of those things bad things do unfortunately happen xx

@Jess very true! And when this happened, the owner was no where to be seen. So it definitely wasn’t the dogs fault

@Alex wouldn’t say it was vile just honest I wouldn’t go have a baby with someone I believed was a murderer

@Chantelle wtf where does murderer come into it🤣🤣

@Chantelle babies aren’t always planned, sounds like this was an unplanned blessing otherwise I’m guessing they would have spoke about this prior to trying for a baby. Why should she decide not to continue with pregnancy because of a dog.. your mindset is all wrong.

Im using it as an example im not gonna argue about it she asked for opinions and i gave mine just like you have

Every dog bites. Every dog can pull blood. And if in a fight response can do a lot more damage. Would you feel the same if the dog was a Chihuahua?

This is such a tricky subject, I think all dogs are a potential risk regardless of breed, it's not about the dog it's about how the parents manage the dog and the baby. I'm aware of two fairly recent attacks on children in the home in my area, one was a small french bulldog and the other was a spaniel. So even the small cute and fluffy ones are a risk. I do believe he needs to be willing to keep them separate or agree upon a supervised, safe way to have them living in the same house as I would expect with any dog owners of any breed. If the dog has ever given any signs of aggression etc then obviously that's a different story but again...I have met plenty of aggressive tiny dogs (more than I have big dogs). But I understand your fears in general of wanting to keep your baby safe. Hope you and him can come to an agreement but I have to say as both an owner of dogs I have small children, I did everything to make sure both my dogs and children were and are safe from each other as my dogs are family not pets.

@Sydney exactly! If it was a different breed would she think the same? It’s a lot. But to me a dog is part of the family you don’t just get rid because you’re pregnant. She’s literally putting the father of her child in an awful position. It’s manipulating him to kill his dog really or he can’t live in the same home as his child ? How is any of that fair.

@Joy not fair at all. I would understand if it had previous aggressive behaviour towards people. But to want to get rid when there has been nothing is totally wrong

If it’s anything my XL bully is so amazing with my son it melts my heart they are best friends. Soon as he was here he just knew how precious he was to us and loves and protects him. I wouldn’t let my MIL frenchie anywhere near my son but my XL are amazing. So so so loving. Obviously be careful with any dog but if your worried because of the “name” don’t be if it’s been bought up in a loving home it will be amazing and if the dog loves you they will love the baby x

@Amy thank you for not leaving hate, I don’t have any experience with big dogs and I’m just looking for advice. It’s a massive worry of mine as my nephew has been attacked by a dog before. Please give me advice on how you got your dog prepared for your baby x

@Holly ah Holly this has such a difficult situation! I completely get why you are scared. The truth is any dog can 'turn' however XL bullies are so strong it can be fatal where perhaps a Yorkie type dog which is more likely to bite will barely leave a mark with their silly little teeth. I can see where you are coming from but also from your partner's perspective. Dogs are family, I love my dogs the same or more than most people. I could never re-home my dogs or get them put down. If it was me I would want my partner and myself to commit to never leaving dog and baby together unattended and start training the dog while you are pregnant to sit and stay ect... And make sure you don't encourage dog to get close to baby. play crying babies on YouTube and give them babies clothes to smell and get used too. There is loads of guidance online about introducing dog and baby.

@Sydney dogs are still animals and no matter how nice there is a risk of ANY dog turning. The baby could do something to spook the dog and it could turn. Is that worth the risk?

@Holly she chose to have a baby when the dog was there. There was no conversation between the two of them she suddenly decided she wanted the dog gone. You can walk on eggshells if you want. But a dog is family. And if you don’t want a baby around your dog don’t have a baby. The dog was there first and wanting to abandon it because you chose to have a baby is out of order.

@Maria thank you so much. This is my worry any dog can turn, she hasn’t shown aggression to people but she is not good with other animals. I would never want a animal to be put to sleep for no reason, it’s just hard to risk your baby’s life every day for a dog

@Sydney I've been bitten by more than one chihuahua and never a bully breed, and I worked in a dog kennel 😂

@Sydney so my option is to just risk baby’s life for the dog?

@Holly at the end of the day it is your decision. But literally anything can damage a person. I personally wouldn’t be making my partner get rid of there dog because I’ve suddenly changed my mind on what I think is ok. You need to sit down and think why you want the dog gone. Have they shown aggression? Are they possessive? The dog will be broken when it gets abandoned. And if you decide to leave then you’re basically ending ur relationship too. There are ways to work with the dog being there. And you should try that before you make you partner get rid of there animal.

I know the vast majority of these responses were perhaps not what you were looking for, more reassurance that your concerns were valid, which they are. However, you mentioned ‘getting rid’ and if nearly an entire forum of very protective mothers are saying it can work, there is something to be said for that. If it were me, and I was pregnant again with a dog that wasn’t mine, I would start to build a very strong bond with the dog myself and show you are also their pack leader. All dogs are very responsive to their pack leader, before we domesticated them, they all had one.

@Holly I’m extremely sorry if I made you feel bad or if I was hateful in anyway That was not my intention I was just aiming to give another perspective if you see what I mean, I know and completely understand it’s a tough situation I just wanted to shed light on the situation from first hand experience you worries are completely valid at the end of the day (I just feel very strongly about this particular topic) I really hope you and your partner can come to terms with something that makes you both feel comfortable In my house I’ve put up a unit and a baby gate to separate my room so that the dogs have a safe space where they can see and hear the baby but still not feel neglected In preparation what I did was played a lot of baby crying and noises etc on YouTube My dogs also sensed that I was pregnant and when I brought the baby home they could tell that it was one of us if you get what I mean 🤍 sorry if you feel I have gone in all guns blazing!!

@Holly I also do not mean what I’m saying to be rude or hurtful. But you should try first before you decide. You’ll never know. Keep baby in your arms and put gates up in areas where baby will sleep

@Holly my 50kg dog is known to be food aggressive, he is fearful so a few fights broke out between my two larger dogs. Luckily enough it was more them telling eachother off than an actual fight so I could always break it up myself - despite one being 50kg and the other 40kg. Yes they had odd fight they did get along and loved eachother and that aggression / fights have never been reflected toward my children, or humans in general. The 50kg dog is literally heavier and stronger then me, I love and trust him, he’s my baby but I do always keep in the back of my mind how powerful he is, so yes I love and trust him but I don’t think you should ever 100% trust a dog, someone said a Yorkie couldn’t do much damage but I beg to differ I have seen the damage a Chihuahua has done to a baby, and it’s not ‘little’ or ‘barely a mark’ it’s one that’ll scar. You need to just prepare the dog, buy a dolly pretend it’s real, get them used to boundaries you want in place when baby is here, crate train

If not already crate trained, don’t allow the dog on the sofa with the dolly / baby if that makes you feel more comfortable and just enforce strict boundaries now and get the dog prepared. When the baby arrives, ensure your partner still walks it , and gives it the love and stimulation it has now, it’s new to them too and confusing, but the dog will adjust. The dog can sense your fear so just be mindful of that as well. When babies born bring home something with their scent on for dog to sniff prior. In regards to my main boundary other than not leaving them alone is I never ever allow the kids near any type of bowls as a precaution, empty or full they know that’s a boundary they aren’t allowed near. This is also how i was bitten - I dropped my comfort near the dogs water bowl and he turned. My children aren’t allowed to pull, prod, poke, sit on my dogs and my dogs aren’t allowed to jump up (the frenchie), or take toys / food off of my children without mine / my partners decision.

Also, ensure the dog knows that they aren’t the boss and you / your partner are the boss. It’s a hierarchy with dogs. If they are allowed to walk over you and think they’re above you, they absolutely will. I definitely recommend crate training or using it more often as it’ll give you a form of comfort knowing dog is secure but within the home, it gives the dog it’s safe space and it allows the dog time out. It’ll also help teach dog to be calm, relaxed. Never let baby in the crate that’s the dogs space and the dogs only and never use it as punishment.

@Holly that sounds really positive that she isn't aggressive to people! Don't take baby on any walks with dog and don't have any other dogs in the house. Never leave baby and dog unattended and make sure dog knows they can't near sofa when baby is there, near play mat ect... Get a safe space set up for dog that baby can't go near either