At a loss and don’t know what else to say

Yes. Do u know for a fact it's his mom he's with for sure? I'd look into this more. And anything over an hr at the gym is excessive and unnecessary, you don't see results that way

Have you or him suggested maybe going with him to the gym since that’s what he likes to do? Maybe do a work out session together. Do you have family that can help take care of your baby while you go with him? Or is there something that interests you that you would like to do?

@Gina my issue isn’t the time he is spending with me - it’s that he is not spending enough time with the baby + I get no break with him being away so much My parents do help out a lot but they are filling a lack of adequate parenting on his part cause his only priorities seem to be work, gym and his mother

This is ridiculous, yes it’s important for you both to be able to keep hobbies (doesn’t sounds like you’re able to at all) but everyone knows with a child comes sacrifices, he can’t be coming home at 10pm that’s out of order. Go to the gym for an hour, 3 times a week maybe, also does he really need to see his mum that often when it means he can’t see you and baby? This mans priorities are all wrong

@Cass exactly, thank you - I just don’t get why he isn’t seeing it this way He repeatedly throws it in my face that I am controlling him I genuinely am baffled

Bloody hell! What is he doing at the gym for 2 hours?! My partner goes to the gym 3x a week for 45mins-1hr and that’s him following a specific plan! Also, why does he need to see his mum for so long too? It all just sounds very suspicious! He needs to sort his priorities out, you don’t deserve this.

2 hrs at the gym is way too much! Is he trying to become a body builder? I would go with him to his mom 😏 why don't you go?🤔 I'm pretty sure she'll like to spend time with her grandchild 😁

Why does he need to see his mam so much is her carer or something? Even so you and your child should be main priority, and 2 hours 4x a week is bit much surly he can drop that I go 4x a week for a hour and that's either roughly same as most people or longer, he definitely need to sort his prioritys out x

cant he take baby with him to his mums on a saturday and sunday? it sounds like hes barely home and a very absent father

1. Has he always been a gym rat? 2. Did you discuss him reducing his time at the gym once baby is here when you were pregnant? 3. Has he always been a mumma’s boy? 4. Has his mum said anything to either him or you about him not spending time with the baby? 5. When he’s at his mum’s, what is he doing for those 3-4 hours? Is she cooking him meals whilst he gets to relax on the sofa etc? 6. Is his mum disabled or something? Why does he need to see her everyday?

This is ridiculous. I am all for working out but as a parent, you make sacrifices. Number one, he should absolutely find a gym that is closer. Number 2, you don’t need to workout out for 2 hours to get an effective workout in. And number 3, what exactly is he doing at his moms so often?

My husband sees his mum at least once a week but he takes our LO with him so I get a morning/afternoon off for myself. Why isn’t he doing that, does his mum not want to see her grandchild?!

My mum would tell me to get back home to my family, or at least to take the baby for a visit. You’re basically trapped hostage while he swans about. That’s not acceptable even for the most understanding wife.

@Neena he has always been a gym rat but he told me once the baby he comes he will go locally or gym in our home gym which we do have sufficient equipment by the way. But he is now reluctant to do that because he wants to “gym wherever and whenever” his words. His mum doesn’t say anything - she doesn’t ever hold him accountable for anything. Even when he is with me and the baby, she will call him several times asking where he is and when he is coming to eat No his mum is not disabled or ill or anything

@Anke the car seat is in my car and he won’t drive my car.. I told him to get a car seat for his and he won’t do that either He also has no confidence with our baby - doesn’t know when he feeds, how much, has never done bed time so doesn’t really know how to put him to sleep and his mum is absolutely useless and no help at all either The only time anything happens is when I go with him and take my son to see her .. it’s always that way. She never makes an effort to come to us and see the baby

@Krissy this is exactly what my parents would say too. They find this whole thing very odd but since he is away so much, they are the ones actually supporting me with the baby right now and do everything for me and my baby due to his absence. It’s comforting to hear that I am not being “controlling” and this is unreasonable behaviour on his part