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My husband is great with our daughter and I am truly grateful for his support and how present he is as a father. We have been through a recent period of very unsettled nights (this lasted for months) where my daughter wanted to breastfeed continually ( she was previously night weaned). I normally let her feed but it was getting to the point of being unsustainable as she wouldn’t fall back asleep on the breast and then would become very upset when taken off. Consequently my husband went into settle her at night to reduce the feeding. This has helped a lot but now my daughter only wants him when she is upset or frightened, while I am happy this has strengthened their relationship and she feels secure with him too, I am slightly heartbroken that my previous Velcro baby no longer wants me when she’s upset (she will scream for him when she’s upset/hurt/scared). I feel like I’ve let her down and damaged our relationship by not feeding her as she wanted in the night and that she doesn’t love me in the same way anymore or doesn’t feel I can meet her needs when she’s upset ( I know this sounds very dramatic!). Has anyone else gone through something similar, how did you cope/did you do anything different to get a balance back again?
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Same thing happened to me but with our son, he prefers his dad over me and it really upsets me knowing that we do a lot pf cute things together and he didnt want me ttherw for support or comfort. Its gone a lot better now, my husband works a very long shift at work and doesnt finish till 8, so most of the day im out and about with our son, and i believe that little bit of bonding helped our relationship get better towards the night as well.
Had to do the same thing when I stopped breast feeding, hubby had to step up to settle her or she'd go for the boob. It's hard isn't it! It's getting better now she's almost over the boob thing. It changes, but it's hard before it does, I feel you there
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do girly things with her! the saying "daddy's girl" is very much true, and that's what seems to be going on here, take her shopping(even if you don't buy anything, walk around and look at cute stuff), when she gets older, bake with her, etc. it's not that she doesn't want you, he's just able to calm her down easier by doing whatever he's doing, my son is a mommas boy, but he hates playing outside with me, he'll only get excited with dad, and it is upsetting, but i try to remember that when he's crying/upset, when he's wanting to cuddle, he wants me, not dad, so now if you looo at things she gets excited with you over, keep doing that and it'll continue to build your connection, when my son does want to play, i take it all in because i don't know when he'll want to do it with me again, so as it is upsetting, you really just have to find things she would like to do, and continue doing that, i hope you feel better, it's a long tough road, but take some time, baby will come back🤍