C section not a major surgery in my husbands eyes
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Id be livid!!!
Wow if my husband said that to me I would tell him to educate himself first before talking to me!!!!
Your husband is ignorant and I would either educate him by showing him what the data says or videos that discuss how cesareans are major abdominal surgery or have your OBGYN educate him. Men who don’t realize how major childbirth is and how close to death you are during those time can’t support their wife well. I’d ve happy to educate him as a doula with the research to back it up too. Things like this really anger me cause I’ve seen that before and it’s sad
It is major surgery yes, BUT, I’d also be upset at someone comparing surgery to remove cancer to a section. They are both VERY VALID major surgeries, but in my opinion I wouldn’t dream of comparing the both. Are you also UK, or US based? In the UK we only stay in the hospital for 24hrs after a section IF there are no complications and everything is ok with the mum and baby.
7 layers of skin cut open! a child removed resown up and expected to Breast feed/care for a child with a 6 weeks healing time?? wonder if he’d feel the same way if he got his balls snipped! or even had a headache 🙃 your completely valid actually disgusting is there anyone else who can support you if he’s going to be a pig about it!! so infuriating hope you and baby are doing well though minus that idiot 🩷
@Emily I wasn’t so much comparing them. I was more so saying how they both are major surgeries and how one person has a lot more care afterwards than the other to try and say I feel I wasn’t ready to leave yet we did because he kept on complaining about being there. This is Australian based. In the hospital I was in you have a minimum of three days. They have a bed for your husband as well as yourself so the husband can look after you, pick up the baby and help you get to the bathroom. Bath you in the shower etc. All these things my husband did. He was very loving and caring in this time. I guess for us it’s the fact that also when I was pregnant with this baby he was gone half the first trimester and half the second visiting his father every weekend while I was at home looking after our toddler and managing a really hard pregnancy. I often feel I come after his family. When my father died my husband disappeared the first three months to be with his family when I needed him.
@Lillie we are good. My little girl is doing well. She is very different to her sister with feeding. She seems to not need to cluster feed to get enough milk which makes me nervous she isn’t getting enough though she has been having regular nappy changes. We will be able to confirm with her weight gain when that is checked with the nurses next week. I’m mostly good. I’m more so anxious now after having the days of care and in that time my husband being a wonderful help to now we have come home and I’m running around after my two year old who is so excited there is a baby in the house she refuses to sleep, wants to hold the baby all the time and keeps trying to climb all over me.
When your midwife does a home visit, make sure he’s there so she can explain to your husband what you went through is major!! All the risk that goes into a c-section, so he can get it through his thick head 🤬 giving birth itself is risky not just for you but for baby as well and sometimes those risk / complications lead to 💀! Rest after birth is also must!! And if he was just gonna complain about taking care of you, then he should’ve left you in the hospital to rest and went home with the kids and be a dad there! And why would they need to cater to him ? He’s not the patient? 🤷♀️ he sounds toxic and I’m sorry he’s not stepping up as a partner to take care of you when you really need his help through this healing stage 🫂
I’ve had 2 c sections. Both pregnancies were tough vomiting from start to end. I remember my partner asking me how does every other woman handle it with my first child My response was I’m not every other woman. I’m me we’re talking about not anyone else. 2 nd pregnancy was toughest my preeclampsia went untraced birth was traumatic almost died and spent days in ICU after baby was born. Still in and out of hospital. Having seen how near I was with death gave him the chance to realize motherhood wasn’t something easy I’m 6 months postpartum Please have a medical professional be the one to address that with him. And your feelings are valid I’ve learned to ask for help when I need it and stopped showing I can do it all I sometimes leave him with both kids and that has helped him understand that parenting isn’t an easy task.
Tell your husband try having 7 layers of tissue skin and muscle cut through then see how he feels! Men can be so freaking ignorant my ex was at the start of the pregnancy severe morning sickness nearly passing out and low iron barely eating one child size meal a day.. xx I hope you’re okay x
this is totally out of order! maybe show him a yt video on how a csection is done!
@Emily I didn’t have a section i went natural and I was in for 4 days. Both me and my girl were fine and healthy and they kept us in. My close friend just had her baby via section on 5th nov and everything were fine and both of them are healthy and doing amazing and she came out the hospital on 12th Nov and she lives across the road from the hospital. I think it’s different no matter where you live.
I would make him watch a real c section surgery then the pancreas one cus wtf they’re both open surgeries that can have life threatening risks and lots of recovery time he sounds like a dick
@Amy omg yes , they say the most stupidest things sometimes thinking they know it all! I had really bad morning sickness throughout my entire pregnancy 6-7 days , all day and I couldn’t keep anything down most of the times, just random days I would be able to keep 1 thing down for a couple of hours but threw it all up later on in the day and mostly survived on cold water and he would tel me I’m being dramatic or wasting food on purpose like wtf 🤬 I ended up anemia & with preeclampsia My 2nd pregnancy was similar except I could only keep an 🍎 down & nothing else. I was so exhausted all the time that I would pass out ( fall asleep 💤 randomly throughout the day ) & then fainting for my first time ever! and I had really bad pupp rashes since first trimester ( drs were saying it’s not possible so wouldn’t give me anything) but my midwives were saying it’s not true, it’s rare but possible and the only thing I was allowed to use was calamine lotion 🧴. My bd kept complaining me being
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Tired was just me being lazy like wtf 🤬
😔 men just don’t get it.. it makes me sick. They cut through 7 LAYERS of skin?! And pull your intestine’s out of your body, pull a baby out your sliced uterus, shove everything back in and sew you up……… not major is delusional…. Ugh
You’re feelings and experience is completely valid!! It IS a major surgery!! They cut through seven layers of flesh in order to bring that baby into the world. It took me almost 11 weeks to stop tearing open due to not being able to rest bc of a neglectful partner and it was hell. I left him because of tons of other neglect and finally healed. You deserve to rest and not be made to feel guilty for it!!