Heartbroken

Just here to vent. I’m a WFH mom of 2, one is 3 yrs old with sensory issues and developmental delays, and a 9 month old. My husband suffers from depression, anxiety, possible ADHD and alcoholism. He def loves his kids and is such a great dad when he’s mentally good and present, but otherwise struggles a lot - he is unhappy with himself and his life and believes that living in a city is part of what is making him miserable. That his “dream job” would require us to relocate to other states. My roots are so deep here tho-my job is here, my family is here, my entire support system that I rely on when he can’t get out of bed cuz of the depression, or disappears to go drink somewhere. I can’t just pick up and leave to make him happy, cuz that’ll just make me miserable and without support when he’s not around. Then if I’m miserable, that affects the kids too. Hes been seeing a therapist 1x a week for months now, on depression/anxiety meds and will start ADHD eval soon, but feels like convo of him not being happy here keeps coming up. So it’s becoming clearer to me that he needs to leave to figure out what makes him happy and I’m so heartbroken by this. Nothing has happened yet, no decisions have been made. But I’m basically grieving the unofficial loss of my marriage and start of single mom life with two young kids. Just not how I thought my life would be…