My husband just told me "No" about buying formula for our baby who just ran out
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Id ask a friend for the short term because baby going without food is not a reasonable option, but don’t tell him and continue blowing him up because if it’s his responsibility he needs to be held accountable.
I would just order it through DoorDash myself.
@Pam I've got $3 in my account
Why didn’t he just doordash it when he noticed it was low? Why did he need to wait until you said it was completely gone..
@S I think he wanted me to be awake for the delivery in case someone tried to steal it. I was going back to bed with the baby when he left and when baby woke back up I gave him the rest and texted to send it.
that’s ridiculous. You have a baby to feed. What do you think his reasoning is?
Do you have any local Facebook groups where you could ask for some? Not being able to go get it yourself could make it trickier though. If you don’t have your own source of income you should have at least one joint account, or maybe an emergency credit card. Not feeding your baby really isn’t an option, obviously. Why do you think he isn’t ordering it?
@Brittany I have no idea, I'm hoping he's just confused and read a different text and replied to that instead and maybe just didn't see the new text? I've sent several now but I'm assuming work got busy.
@GMF all of this right here. OP I’m assuming you’re a SAHM? You should have access to money .
I see, if he’s still not responding. I would reach out to a friend at this point. Do you think you should have access to whatever funds he’s using to purchase the formula?
@Brittany Yes, I am. Going to be talking to him about a joint account tonight.
@Pam I texted a friend, if he doesn't reply soon she's going to get it for us.
Ya. I would definitely have a chat with him. You need to have access to an account in cases of emergency. Hope it works out and it was just a misunderstanding.
I would be LIVID. But I would def call someone I know who would help me right now since baby needs formula and lay into hubs later.
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Do you still need it? I don’t mind placing a order for you
We got it sorted out. He was apparently replying to my text from 1am instead of the one I sent earlier? Idk how he got mixed up 🙄 but it's all good now, thankfully!
Apply for WIC they give free formula
Baby needs it get if he like it or not, blow up his phone also so he knows your not joking, Mine has said that to me before and he told me after he did not mean what he said so maybe he pressed no but meant yes
If you have $3 in your account, therein lies the problem. You’re financially dependent on a man who can’t be trusted to meet your needs and those of your baby. You need your own money.
Id advise against a joint account. But do get an account for yourself with the same bank or credit union. That way you have a way that he can transfer money to you. But that you have separate funds. Heck, look into something passive income that you could do, or consider doing a part time job locally .... A something job to start building your funds . But if things ever go sideways you're screwed if you have a joint account.... And you also want a personal savings account too. Because everyone needs to have a personal savings account . Honestly, yeah, you need some income of some kind. Even part time... Why? So you can get a credit card and do a few simple recurring charges and pay it off each month before bill is due to build your credit..... Because I'm going to hazard a guess that you don't have any credit history
Hang on husband???? Um ... He's financially controlling you ... Definitely do not get a joint account . Have an account with the same bank or credit union.
Mmmmm yeah no I have my husband cards in my Apple wallet…. He doesn’t have mines …. But i use his card all the time without asking 🤷🏽♀️
Walk to the shop or get a bus? I wouldn’t want to have to rely on another person to do get milk if it was empty x
@Elizabeth He is not financially controlling me by us having a misunderstanding through text. I said I wanted a joint account even though it was never an issue before and he immediately agreed and made arrangements. I've been through financial abuse before, this is not that. I'm a disabled SAHM who has a side hustle, I just happened to spend a good amount of money the day before otherwise I typically have a lot more in my own account. I'm not going to get a part time job, I wouldn't be screwed either if we separated because my support system with my family and friends is great. If he hadn't replied to me I already had a friend lined up to help.
Oooookay! Gotcha gotcha. The context wasn't there. Thanks for the clarification.
Hugs to you
I’d honestly do all of the above! Baby needs milk!!