OCD

My husband’s brother started living with us since 6 months now, I delivered a baby 3 months ago n I’m a first time mum, currently i’m on my mat leave, I do all the cleaning cooking and the baby stuff, I cannot eat my meals if the house is dirty I’ve OCD not that I bother for a small amount of mess, this brother of his is a grown up 23 year old baby who literally keeps his room like a garbage bin also he has zero etiquettes he forgets to flush after using the bathroom it’s not over yet he keeps the garbage bin open and spills every food that he eats on the dining table also he never takes care of my baby, he never cleans his dishes neither he offers any help,I’m literally done asking him for help, spoke to my husband 💯 times about living separately he leaves the washroom and washbasin with all his hair I’m loosing my shit now I don’t know how to make him understand I’ve tried to address the issues many times with him Now my house has cockroaches which is making me upset and cry I have a phobia I just can’t tolerate creepy insects in my flat 😭😭😭

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If this were me he’d have to move out

Your husband needs to put his foot down. He should be prioritizing your peace- I’d tell the brother to get it together, or he’ll be finding a new place. Stand up for yourself ‼️

Definitely carrying on addressing the issue to them both. I have ocd and that would definitely drive me insane. Now is the time for you to relax with your newborn and for you to be taken care off not to deal with a very dirty person. Is there any parents in the picture to get involved or you actually have a serious conversation with him instead of it coming from your husband address everything and how you feel mentally. I genuinely understand how you are feeling because I can not stand mess like I can’t be content and sat if I haven’t cleaned. The days I’m so tired, mentally and physically I will be cleaning the house up and down. My mind can’t deal with dirt. Why is he staying in the house? Is this a permanent move? I think it’s time you speak to him and let him know that you want this solved and if it isn’t you will take the next step to get a adult/guardian involved

He needs to go. It’s one thing if he contributes and is clean but this is a joke I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this.

My husband and I have OCD. My husband refuses for anyone to live with us besides his sister (only have 1 sister). He allows it because she’s responsible and reliable to cover her portion of rent and/or will help us out with food or anything. She’s also not messy either and will help with child care if we’re in need. I’d be livid and crying too, girl 😭😭 You better put your foot down and start yelling at them both. Because that’s disgusting if they’re comfortable living like that.. I could never..

Tell him he has to leave as it's not a good clean environment for baby to be living in at all

@Hamda he was supposed to move at some friends place but ended up being here I tried to address this to my MIL but that lady is giving me stupid replies like he used to do the same here at our place too He is like that what can I do blah blah blah Now my husband wants him to stay 6 more months with us until he is settled with a proper job

@Nicole he doesn’t care at all I already made clear to keep the house clean as there’s a newborn in the house 🙁

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