Unhappy in my relationship

my partner and me and have a son together.. We’ve been together for 5 years and I’m very unhappy, I love him but I don’t know if I want to be with him anymore. He can’t hold a job, he’s wrecked 2 cars, he won’t be able to afford insurance, we don’t cuddle anymore. Everything between us just sucks. And I don’t know if I can keep going like this. He half asses being a dad, and makes a million excuses for his actions. He’s made a lot of mistakes through our relationship but I always forgave him. But now I’m thinking I shouldn’t have forgiven him, I should’ve left him months into our relationship. I don’t know why I continue to stay with him, I keep telling myself “it’ll change, we will be fine” but years pass and it’s the same. My family doesn’t like him, and I’m at a point where I have no friends left and can’t leave the house because he’s insecure and jealous. I want more for me, i deserve more.

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Awe girl! I’m so sorry!! I’ve wasted years on past relationships.. I know how you feel!! Feel free to message me and I’ll do what I can to help you and even if you just want a friend to talk to I’m here!!

It’s so hard when your in it but when you finally make the decision your going to feel a weight off your shoulders ( if that’s truly what you want for yourself and your son) . They never change sadly he’s shown you his true colours, sadly I look back on my own past relationship and came to the realization that the person he was when we first got together doesn’t exist and never really did! No one is going to be able give you that validation other then yourself, when your ready you’ll leave 💕 All the best and I hope you get everything you deserve in life because your worth every inch of it 😊

I always think that our instincts and gut feeling are guardian angels who tell us what’s right and wrong. Right now you have the answer and you are seeking validation for that. You know he’s toxic and has nothing to offer to you to make you feel good. He is taking away from you rather than adding. You know it’s time to leave just find the courage to do it. You’re not the only one to dislike him it’s also your family that can see the toxicity. But until you decide in your mind it’s time to leave nobody can do anything. Maybe a little bit of distance from him will make you and him realise if it’s for good or not. Maybe leaving can sound stressful but you never know what life awaits as soon as you leave. Few years in you may meet the best human ever and you can twist your life in good.

Start working on finding a good job. Don't let him know. Then you leave to some place cheaper to live it may not be the best place but you'll have peace.

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