I'm just venting, feeling so emotional

So my husband is in the reserves, currently deployed. He has 2 years left for his contract to be over, he signed a 8 year. Before he went to bed we are texting, he just told me that offered to renew his contract and he can choose from a year to another 8. He is seriously thinking about to reenlist.. I also just found out that his unit will be coming back in January but I believe he and a few others will stay back because of their MOS and they won't be coming back till june/July. I really wasn't expecting him to stay past his 400 days. Especially with our new born just being 13 days old... he is going to miss out on the extra bonding time he could get with our lo and our older son. My emotions are so everywhere, I had to take a walk with the baby in the stroller so I wouldn't be sitting here on the couch crying my eyes out. My body feels like a wreck. I've had a headache all day and nothing seemed to help besides going on that walk.

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a big plus of staying in could really help with covering health insurance cost for the whole family. but it’s never going to be easy for you to be the default parent & he may be different once he gets back. he should definitely be fighting to come back in january, i don’t see who would want to miss out on the bonding time. my husband is reserves also and deployed for a year & missed 0-8months of our girl growing up only visiting about once a month since he was only 5hours away on the border. he’s been back for a year already since th n and that separation seems to still be relevant, it’s like he can’t get out of that depression of being ripped away from us, our marriage has not been easy. i feel your pain, i sure hope you have other family around to support you and help you pass the time

i cried almost everyday as well, lots of emotions especially post partum. men hide their emotions but they’re hurting too in their own way. don’t get me started on the self sabotage thing they do where they don’t take care of themselves nor strive to be better. hopefully your man is different

@Andrea thank you, I know I'm not alone. It's his MOS being in the mortuary affairs side of it that has him staying over seas. It just seriously sucks. I was hoping that he could have some bonding time with our lo but to now find out he might now be back till after the 400+ days. He has no job lined up over here. Before he left he had no job, actually no job for 2 years he was home from his 1st deployment. That one left him with ptsd and he totally shut down on me and our 1st born.. our marriage hasn't been easy neither.

Usually if they sign overseas it’s tax free $. So if he were to sign it be better while he’s gone. Also at 8 years he probably has the continuation pay option. But would have to agree to another contract

When my baby was born my husband was sent to deployment and he missed 11 months of my baby’s life ( including her 1st birthday ) my thought was always their bonding experience and I made sure to show her videos and pictures of her dad. I had him send me recording for good morning and good nights to Kay for her so she could hear his voice and the first time she saw him (homecoming) she was 14 months old and she recognized him and hugged and kissed him like they’ve been in each other life’s every day. And now she’s literally daddy’s girl ! He just reenlisted because the benefits are good for our growing family. And the way we like to see it is, this is for the greater good 😊 Hopefully this helps, and gives you some ideas to make their bond strong !

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