Why is my daughter so much more difficult when her dad is around?

I mean I'm being serious, I thought I was just imagining it or blaming him when really there's no correlation but... no, today he's been away at the office and she has been good as gold every second of the day, even when hungry, tired etc., she was communicating with me and it's been a dream spending the day with her. That is NEVER the experience when her dad is working from home upstairs, and tonight now he's back she's just started shouting at me in the bath and then demanded daddy comes to get her out... fine by me! I'm just exasperated, and if I try to talk to him about it he'll just get defensive. But it's an actual problem. Does anyone have any ideas why this is and what to do about it??

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How old is she?

@Patrice she is 3

I could of written this myself. My daughter is so well behaved for me when it’s just the two of us. The minute we have a family dynamic she doesn’t seem to like it and plays up badly. She is whingey ALL day. My partner went away for 10 days and I swear it was the easiest 10 days so far 🙃😂

Maybe it’s a little jealousy thing. Not that she is bad intentioned bc she’s only 3 but maybe the dynamic between you and the father makes her feel she wants more of his attention and time and with you there she acts out in tantrums. You should also ask her if she is okay? Did something happened, did anyone hurt her? Questions like that. Otherwise I would try to make together time more fun and inclusive with her like fun outings, movies indoors together… I’ve never experienced this so I’m literally using deductive reasoning based on her age and behavior. Remember kids try to throw tantrums at this age, but don’t feed it by giving it attention

My daughter does this as well… and I just enjoy the moment, and allow him to take over while I sit/lay down and rub my feet together lol

Sounds like she is looking for more attention from dad.

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