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Hi , I have three year old twins, my son is autistic. I am really struggling to give them both quality time. They don't play well together because my son finds it hard to share and is possessive over toys. My daughter tries to play with him but they end up both getting upset. If I try to spend time with my son then my daughter gets jealous and pushes in .I feel like I am constantly referee at the moment. I don't have the option of helping from family or friends . They do go to nursery a couple of days a week but it's the other five days I'm struggling with. Are there any parents in a similar position that can share any insights. I'm feeling really desperate at the moment and just lost as to how to move forwards. Xx
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So I have a 9 month old baby girl 6 year old son who is autistic and a 10 year old son. Both my boys fight and I am constantly having tears fights objects thrown and it’s a daily battle. I try to set boundaries and make sure they have their own space and time apart when they get like this to wind down. I don’t have any help either and it’s really tough I tell you but it is just about rules structure and boundaries. I do a lot of painting with my oldest later on at night and 6-7 I do play or watch tv with my autistic boy and my little girl. It’s tough but it will get better xxxx

@Eve thanks for taking the time to reply xx

Dealing with the same mama . My 2 year old daughter is the EXACT same way with her 17 month old sister . I totally understand how you feel . I feel sad for my 17moth old because she be wanting to play with her sister and my 2 year old is not having it at all . Even when I try to engage in a puzzle or something with them both , things start off good but then my 2 year old gets upset and decides she doesn’t want to share anymore . I praise her when she does share with her sister without being asked to and she loves it then tries to share again . It helps sometimes but of course we have set backs . It’s very exhausting and I feel helpless at times . Try playing with them both . Puzzles, blocks , hide and seak . Tickle time . may take a few times but it gets easier each try . When I do see them playing and laughing together it melts my heart because that doesn’t happen often . But it is starting to happen more often. So I’m slowly realizing , it does get better!!! Hang in there mama !!!

@Koya thankyou koya xx

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