Play dates!

I'd ignore and avoid them next time. She's obviously has an issue with children learning and socialising with eachother. Some just go to chat with other mums and other go for their children to socialise. I found the same issue and stopped going as my daughter would crawl to others and try and interact and the other mothers would literally pick their child up and move away from her which was heart breaking. They just wanted mum friends and just let their children play with toys not each other. X

@Siana I literally feel so heartbroken because it’s just me and my husband so I am looking for a place I can take her so she can socialize but wao so disappointed. Thank you so much for responding you have no idea how much it means

I take my daughter to loads of playgroups and have thankfully never encountered someone so rude. How ridiculous someone saying something like that to you! Babies are exploring the world, they all get in each other space it's all part of learning and playing. Unless someone is in danger there's no need to interject like that. Sorry you had such a bad experience.

I completely understand I felt the same and wanted her to be very social. Maybe worth asking the mothers next time, ask if they give permission and they don't mind with both little ones interact with eachother touch ect. That way you know who will be happy with it or not. Some don't understand babies want to interact but don't know strength or if they hurting another yet. So a good close eye to make sure they don't hurt or apologise if they do hurt another. It's all learning for lil ones and only way to find others that are happy for full interaction is to ask. Daunting as it is, only way. X

@Katie thank you I thought it was me just thinking that way but I couldn’t agree more if they are not in danger or one of them crying they are good. Thank you for responding ❤️

@Siana yes definitely let see how it goes

I think that’s a little dramatic and I do agree that if you go places like that you need to expect other babies to be touching yours and going by my little boys age (9 months) sometimes (as they don’t understand) they may pull hair / pinch / snatch toys etc, having said that, I would expect the parent to move their child away or correct them in some sort of way and possibly even a subtle ‘sorry’ to me as I would do that. However if both babies are exploring eachother / touching one another I really don’t see the problem? My little boy can be boisterous so he quickly goes from touching to whacking, so I would move him away or redirect him

@Amy yes exactly!! I couldn’t agree more with you on this!!

Well I really think it depends how your baby was touching the other kid (gentle or not really? Insistent?). Because if it was insistent or not very gentle, you should have redirect (they learn to be social and we have to teach them what can and what can't be done with others). The other mom probably saw her baby uncomfortable and that's ok to say so. My baby is not a hugger. He hates hugs. At the playground another baby tried to hug him. It was obviously armless from the other kid but I told the mom that my baby actually doesn't like hugs. She sounds surprised but this is how it is. Not all baby likes hugs or being touched and that's ok for the mom to tell that to you. I don't see any issues. I go to lots of play dates and I had never been a problem for anyone. We all start to know each other kids and we teach our baby how to interact

I literally specifically had more than one child and only let them have play dates and weekends with their cousins for this reason because we are all family, and they are kids so we never take anything personal or malicious intent towards one another. Because fights break out about peoples kids and I’m sensitive about my kids so if I feel like if you really are mad at them for being babies now you pissed me off 😭🤦🏾‍♀️ so I gave them siblings and they were blessed to be born into a family always pregnant lol

@Aryyy my baby plays with her cousins too when we visit because of the same thing you just said! And that’s exactly how I feel ! I am planing already for next one so she can have company 🥰

It’s fine don’t feel bad. You will come across kids and moms of all types & ages. As a mom, you have to be open to seeing and coming across those things at play dates. Kids are young they’re still learning to be around other kids their age or older/younger, & you’re also observing. You’re new to this too. Its ok 🙂

That woman was out of line. I went to a playdate where a little boy hit and grabbed my daughters face, the mom was apologizing profusely. And my response ? I told her it was just fine and he was curious, my baby wasn't crying and she was trying to reach the little boy too. I mean that's how babies learn to socialize and I'm so sorry that woman said that too you. I kinda wish we were closer then we could go on playdates lol.

@Jazmin E that’s why I got them soooo much lol because they are family can stay as long as they wanted and their parents loved the breaks lol because don’t make me mad about my babies I just didn’t have the patience it was either family or my friends kids which also was family because they grew up together lmao

@Brittany no literally this was and is all of my kids til this day 😂😂😂 I feel like kids who are allowed to express themselves and move freely and not so restricted are a different type of kid and they have a hard time playing with reserved kids lol. So I just kept them with family cause I always got anxiety taking them to play other places like omggg never mind 😭

@Brittany exactly what I would do!!! That’s how they learn and develop. If only literally that would be perfect!

@Aryyy lmao I feel you on that, my baby girl is so outgoing and wants to reach and play with every baby, meanwhile her cousin is a month older and hes a very very reserved baby. We put them together and she reached to grab him and freaked him out 🤣🤣 he's scared of her now lol

@Brittany lmfaooooo my little cousin is 5 months younger than my daughter and when they were smaller she pulled my baby hair and made her cry lol 😂 and now they are 19 months and she is terrified of my baby cause her siblings play with her like she is a big kid so she is very hard body 😭