Advice?

My son is now 3 months old, be was just over 4 weeks early. We've had such a rollercoaster of a time, he's been unsettled for a while, quite unhappy and in pain . He's now been diagnosed as lactose intolerant and id say his symptoms have improved and he sleeps a little better at night but he literally cries alday everyday. I've told my husband its getting me down, but I don't think he understands as he's at work alday. I know babies cry,but he just seems so unhappy and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I try to play with him, talk to him, cuddle him, rock him and he just cries.he hates his bouncy chair, he's too small for a jumperoo.he hates his playgym. He's only happy for a short time if he's sat upright listening to some music. I feel maybe he's bored, but I'm unsure what to try him with. I do venture out for walks with him. He also hates the car so that doesn't work.he isn't my first baby, I know every baby is different but I've never experienced this before and I just don't know what to do.

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It’s so rough, my first baby was like this. Bloody nightmare she was 😩 I remember feeling really down. She was diagnosed with silent reflux and omeprazole helped a lot - have you got anything prescribed? We also used that special lactose free formula. She completely changed after 3 months and could spend more time upright, sit up in the pram etc. I guess her reflux was better like that. My second has reflux but sicks it up and then cracks on with her day. She can be fussy but not as bad, and once you’ve had a screamer like my first nothing phases you 😳 Hang in there, it’s rough, but I would guess you are getting through the worst part 🙏🙏❤️❤️

It's so incredibly wearing to be with a baby crying that constantly - even if you know they're safe and fine, it absolutely grinds you down. Can your husband take a day or half day to stay home with the baby while you get some time to yourself? Whatever would feel good for you to reset a bit, you know - a spa day, a movie, working out, lunch with friends, a walk, whatever. And then at the end of the day when you're a bit refreshed and he's had the experience of a full day alone with baby, the two of you could discuss possible next steps, whether getting prescriptions or new ideas for how you could be better supported.

I've broken down this evening to my husband,.and he's taking over for the morning tomorrow so I can go out for a few hours, motherhood is strange because I know that will do be good but then I feel so guilty, that I should be with my baby, and making the most of everyday while he's so small, it is so hard. Yes, he's now on lactose free milk, but I still think theres something else there, he can be feeding one minute quite happily, then he will just start screaming uncontrollably, tears aswel, and that's after he's been winded. Maybe it is reflux, maybe I need to mention it all to the doctor again, as when I did before he focused on the allergy side of things,but I really don't think the amount of crying is normal. Hes now fast asleep after being awake most of the day and I'm relieved as I can have a cup of tea and breathe, then I feel guilty for feeling that way! I'm hoping tomorrow my husband can see what I mean, and that im not exaggerating.

I'm so glad you're getting some time to yourself! If you feel guilty, try to remind yourself that taking breaks equips you to be a better parent to your baby.

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