Confused..

emmm what are you doing! Get out. sounds like he’s using you

@Nicola I love him😢

It sounds like he just wants you for sex while he moves on with his life and I would not be surprised it’s cuz of another woman. And he’s probably keeping you around as a placeholder. You should go back to your moms and not talk to him for a while so you can get your head on straight- have your mom be the middleman if he wants to visit his kid cuz he will just keep using you.

I would recommend couples counselling. Both of you can lay your cards on the table in a safe environment and decide how to move forwards.

Op you may love him but he’s literally telling you he doesn’t love you anymore. He’s done. Why be with someone who says they don’t love you? You are worth more than that! You are more valuable than a sex object and placeholder! You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t just throw you away and use you for sex. You deserve someone who fights to be with you not fuck you and leave. If you stay he will find someone else eventually and you will be thrown out in the cold again and be blindsided again. If this was your daughter and a man said he didn’t love her would you want your daughter to stay where she’s not wanted but just used?

If you can't stay and see him as the liability he has become and use that time to set yourself up again, I'd suggest to go back to mum and stay there and sort your emotions out first. He is lonely that's all. Because you and the kids made his life fun and loved but now that you're gone it's boring and sad that's all. Don't be mistaken by his actions. So stop the sex because he may just want to get you pregnant again then what ?????? Have you thought about that part. You're lucky you have somewhere safe to go. and the important thing as well is that you should seek counselling if you want closure. Depending on the outcome you can decide what next. However do this while at mums if you are welcome there. All the best. Don't stay if you don't have to because you need tine to set up yourself again orif you don't have a place to go. Remember he is free to feel his feelings and I reckon it's great he's said it out loud. Please listen to him. Most women refuse to listen to men when they are very direct usually. Xx

The high of being separated and then having sex after being apart.. that just urge and desire. I kid you not, guys can have sex and not be in love. They aren't wired like that. All the logic on world won't do. Your emotions are on fire for him.. men are evil filth.. they don't feel guilty. Also I don't think he every did love that way before. The fake love wore off unless you did something so evil to him or Chested him and treat him like garbage bag...I think the child isn't his? Guys never tell you they don't love, every ever ever ever ever... this guy tells you he don't love you and after sex still don't love you... holding on to it, really sad... he also a horny jerk.. he could of said before the sex, hey I want you back.. for company.... sex etc since he so honest

He's using you for sex. Doesn't matter how much you love him he's using that against you!