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Any advice?🥹

So baby boy is now 2 months old and have noticed his dad to be very unreliable , wondering if theres anything I can do to help things..? I asked him to let me know beforehand if he wants to see baby & he just won't listen and only wants to see him last minute whenever he feels like it without notice- I don't want to stop him from seeing our child but I don't feel there's a single ounce of respect there. I don't think I'm being unreasonable but he acts like I'm crazy. The other thing is he stopped supporting me financially (it's been 2-3 weeks, before he was paying me a bit each week.. I feel very awkward about this and dont know if I should say something if it carries on or just leave it... I don't want to be begging for money but it just doesn't seem fair in a way how he's been acting (baring in mind he was the one who was acting like he wanted to be very involved at first but it's already seemed to fizzle out)

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Definitely set that boundary. It’s not ok for him to do whatever he pleases. You have a life too, and a schedule I’m sure. Make it very clear to him what he needs to be doing and if he doesn’t want to do that then it’s not happening. He needs to be more mature as an adult and a parent it’s really that simple. Just be firm and clear. And ignore him making you feel crazy. You aren’t. 🤍

He is seeing your baby when it’s convenient by the sounds of things. You need to set days/times especially as baby starts to set a routine with nap times. Apply for CMS yesterday.

Thanks for your replies 💙💙would it be wrong for me to say no to him seeing him last minute? How would I go about this without making me into the bad guy? Or do I just suck it up and let him be a dad when he feels like it if he is refusing to schedule anything in/be consistent? 🥲I don't want to be accused of being the reason why he doesn't see his son (he has said this to me before even though I'm trying so hard to make things easier for him to see him, ie being flexible with days, times - telling him he doesn't have to see him in the house/around me etc) . I feel like no matter what I do or say he's going to have a problem either way and really and truly I just want him to be a good dad he has it in his head I have feelings for him but if it wasn't for our baby I would have never spoken to him again he's been a bit of a nasty piece of work ever since I was pregnant

Wow I feel I could have wrote this myself. I have a slimmer situation. As my little one is 19months now and since having her, he doesn’t try or bother seeing her or wanting to know about her. He doesn’t necessarily give me money for her etc. it’s just mainly me doing it all and it is draining and annoying. Like he said he wants to be a dad by doesn’t act like it. Anyways, I say you need to talk to him and ask him if he wants to be involved or not. Because, he clearly showing he doesn’t.

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