I’m beyond upset 😶

Yall I can’t do this shit anymore!!! My MIL has been babying my 30 year old Brother in law. She makes excuses for him every day. Talks shit about me, her son (my husband) and my baby girl (2) every chance she gets. They feed off of each other talking shit about us. Talking down to us and nitpicking everything we say or do. Due to family drama we all ended up moving in together. It just seemed like the best course of action cuz of the state of the economy. Since day 1 it has been absolute HELL! I’m a SAHM and my husband works 50+ hours a week. My MIL has cancer and my Gay BIL was a part time server but quit his job a week ago. He refuses to help around the house. He just rots on the couch or in his room all day watching tv and playing video games. I clean after them every day all day. My MIL is always up my ass every time she is in the room she tried to find something wrong with what I am doing. I can clean the whole house and she’ll point out a spot that I missed. She has yelled at me a few times for singing or even humming to myself. She expects me to clean up after myself when I cook, which I do anyways cuz I’m the only person who does dishes, but when she cooks she never cleans. She gets drunk every single day and either goes to sleep super early or stays on the couch till 11-12 at night terrorizing anyone who dares come downstairs. She listens to my private conversations, I swear it’s like she has a glass to the wall. I clean the fridge once a week because they are so gross and just toss stuff in there until it’s packed and gross. My MIL and BIL are always telling me how to parent as if they know what it’s like to parent a toddler girl. My sweet girl is the first girl to be born in their family in over 60 years. His mom had 2 under 2 and uses that every chance she gets. She had so much more help and family stability than we do, heck she even had a nanny. When her boys started to get loud or hyper she put them on adhd medication when they didn’t need it and they both have mental issues because of that. It’s wasn’t regulated back then. Like imma take parenting advice from her 😤🙄. When I tell you she baby’s my BIL I mean he still sucks his damn thumb at 30. 😬 Anywho she doesn’t know what it’s like to raise a little girl. She shows me every day that she absolutely HATES KIDS. She throws a fit every time my daughter makes a single noise. Rn I’m hiding in our bedroom watching a movie with my sweet lil girl, my husband is at work and I’m watching one of his employees kids because she couldn’t find a babysitter. It was an emergency so I took him home with me. This is the third time I’ve had to watch him in the past two weeks. every time I bring him over his mom screams at me. He is the same age as my girl and they aren’t that loud. We’re trying to make the best of this situation for now. We either want them to move out and we take over the lease or we’re gonna move out. My husband just got promoted so we’re trying to hang in tight. But I’m so beyond my limit here that I will explode. If you made it this far thank you for letting me vent!

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Mind you my daughter is fed up too and she tells them to shut up when they start yelling at me or my husband. I really hate this situation but we have bad credit and I’m just waiting for my husband to get his raise so our credit doesn’t matter when we apply for places…

Is it possible to move out?

I would move out into the smallest house trailer to get away from that.

@Colby In my area you need $5000 minimum to move into a new place and we have pets so it’s even more than that. We were waiting for them to move out so we could just take over the lease and rent on of the rooms to a friend. But rn we only have $1000 saved because of the family drama that happened recently

@Anna we have 3 pets, two are ESA’s for my hubby cuz he’s a veteran. Otherwise we would have moved into a studio apartment a few months ago. We were taking care of his grandparents and paying all their bills for a few months and had to stop cuz it became too much and emptied out of savings. I think we need to move and cut contact completely

Selena, this is a nightmare. Leaving is the absolute best thing (lets be honest, freeloaders will not leave a situation that's good for them), but how can you get by before that change? Can you find something where you can leave the house every day? It costs money for preschool, but maybe there's a place that'll let you work there and you can have your daughter in a healthy situation. TBO, it's at least emotional abuse by an alcoholic, and maybe you can find a social worker to help you find a program for you and your daughter. Another resource is Alanon (support groups for family members of alcoholics). Find one and show up- they are there to help, especially you as a Mom. Please save what you can of your mental health. Your daughter needs you to protect both of you. 💔