Am I overthinking?

My fiance grew up being good friends with this guy and he has a fiancee that I became friends with. Me and her got really close and she made me feel like we were pretty good friends. We haven't hung out in a really long time and she started ditching me or taking advantage of me. For example, she wanted me to make some shirts for a bridal party she was in and I said I would do it for free, just hang out with me while I do it. And she came and left really quickly instead of staying. And brought more shirts to make than I thought I had to. I stayed up all night doing them. I know it's my fault for letting myself get taken advantage of. She would constantly ditch me for going out to the bar and she bailed on a very important event I asked her to be there for, to go drinking, even though it was planned so far in advance. After all this I decided to take a step back from her. I finally decided to ask her to hang out again a few months ago(I have zero other friends so I felt desperate) and she said she's too busy and will reach out when she's not, but has had plenty of time for her other friends. Months have gone by since then. Recently her and her partner bought a house. My fiance is a contractor. Can renovate or build anything. They are now asking for his help with things. And she reached out to apologize for being absent, but mentioned she bought a house. I feel like this is just to get my fiance's help without feeling guilty. Am I ridiculous?
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I’d charge them regular price if they need help.

No I have friends like this to and ever since I stopped giving into them they’ve distanced themselves from me and I’m okay with that because they just used me . Charge them full price of everything if they were your friends they’d pay there is no hand outs especially when you’ve already done so much for her .

That’s bs. I’ll be your friend 😊

I accidentally hit yes! I meant no!!! You are not overthinking I would feel the same.

@Sam I'll take you up on that offer 🤭🩷

Fuck her, yeah she is just using you she sounds like a bitch!! If your partner does anything to their house make sure he charges full price or he just tells them that's he's too busy. Have you spoken to your partner about this?

I’ll charge regular price 🤷🏾‍♀️ that’s money for the house she wants to use to you she can pay lmao

As stated above make sure he charges the full price for the job. Moneys money, I wouldn't pass up on the job I'd just make he wasn't doing it at a discounted rate, she sounds sly and I bet she will try and be all nice to get money off it ect. Just stay firm and keep to the price!

She has alot of cheek. She ain't any kind of real friend from the sounds of it. She has definitely just been using you I think. She calls on you when it suits her. A stink person. You deserve better....xxxx I hope you find a nice genuine buddy in your area because she ain't it. Sorry, hun. 🙏👭💟

Also, I personally think your partner needs to be cautious about doing work for a mate. It can get really tricky if issues arise with the building work. Unless he really needs the job I'd say it's not a good idea. I'd not be surprised if they expect 'mates rates' and some kind of half-free shi%t.

Also just to be clear, you have 110% done nothing wrong. You have been kind and generous and genuine. She sounds very superficial and so caught up.in her own life that she doesn't care for others. I am imagining this person to also be quite a try hard. Like thinks they are really cool and tries to keep up with certain click of people

She’s not a very good friend and you deserve better friends! Sorry she took advantage of you, don’t let them do the same with your hubby and the work on the house!

As everyone said she wants to use you. But I’d like to add, if she wants any work done, ask them to pay upfront full price, as she might take you for a muck and never pay. So yeah sit with hubby explain to him everything and hopefully he’d see her for who she is and you guys will be on the same page. Also, you’d rather have zero friends than having fake friends that are only there when they can use you.

That’s not your friend. She sees you as a friend of her man…

I would also have the agreement written on paper before any house work starts so if they decide not to pay you have a contract and can take them to court to force them to pay. She sounds like a terrible “friend”.

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Honestly, it sounds like she may have a drinking problem (or is possibly just really immature). But that’s not yours to deal with; she showed you what she’s able or willing to bring to the table right now and it’s pretty crummy and selfish. If it were me I’d hold her at arm’s length as a friendly acquaintance, and see if she grows up but not count on it

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