Rant advice please !!!!
Hi girls so Ive decided to cut my dad off today he lives a good few hours from me but he’s seen his grandson 4 times since he’s been born …. me and my dads partner have not seen eye to eye over the years , his partner has a older daughter who is due her baby around the same time as my little one’s birthday, my dad said he would be here for his 2cnd birthday which is in 3 weeks his partners never wanted to come up and make effort with him so he comes alone considering he never ever sees him , he asked what he needed for his birthday I’ve seen a stroller off Amazon so I sent the link to him ( a cheap one ) he agreed to buy this for my little one , now his partner has turned around and said no "it’s not much of a present " so he said he’s no longer buying this after saying he will order his stroller this weekend , or coming down for his birthday I’m not happy about this , as it seems he’s always putting them first as her baby’s due ..:: , my dad and his partner are always going away on holidays for 2 weeks yet he comes here for 2 days then leaves he visits us 4 times a year and always says " its
money" I e said he can stay with us to save money , we don’t ever get invited down their end , his partner is constantly telling him what he should and shouldn’t buy , shes always in the back ground on our phone-calls
I’m so fed up am I being harsh? It’s just so toxic I love my dad to bits he’s a lovely person but when it comes to my son I take that very personally!
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Whatever happens I hope it works out for you and your son! You’ve got to do what works for you and ultimately you’ve got to protect your own peace! X
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I feel like this is a conversation you definitely need to have with your dad obviously these things are better face to face but you should air how you feel cause things will never change unless you do and you give him the opportunity to change the way things are. As for his wife that’s an issue that’s a little more tricky.. could you not agree to disagree and be amicable for your child so then maybe you’d see more of your dad? Obviously I don’t know the background and that may not be an option for you but seeing as she’s pulling all the strings in the background from what you’ve said maybe you’d invite them both up to your house and try and sort it out one way or another? You’re completely valid in feeling the way that you do especially when something was agreed in regards to birthdays and gifts etc and you being let down I’ve been through something similar with my parents but nothing would’ve ever changed unless I’d told them how I felt at the time and it is much better now…,