Need Parenting Advice: Struggling with 2-Year-Old’s Delays and Grandma’s Refusal to Follow Recommendations

Hi everyone, I’m reaching out because I’m feeling really stuck and frustrated. I have a 1-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son. My son is currently behind developmentally—he’s not using utensils, still mostly eating puréed foods, still using a bottle, and isn’t meeting some other milestones. He’s in early intervention, and we’re working with a doctor and an occupational therapist to help him. The challenge I’m facing is that when I’m at work, my son is with my grandma, who is a huge help, but she won’t follow through with the recommendations from the doctor, OT, or myself. For example, when I ask her to help him practice using utensils or introduce more textured foods, she just doesn’t do it. I know she means well, but she’s resistant to change and doesn’t see the importance of following these guidelines. I’m really at a loss for what to do. On one hand, she’s my biggest help because my husband and I both work full-time. On the other, I feel like I’m not able to make progress with my son’s development because of this disconnect. I’ve tried talking to her, but she just doesn’t listen, and it’s causing a lot of tension. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you handle it when family members won’t follow your parenting or therapy advice? I’m doing my best to balance everything, but it’s tough, and I just want to do what’s best for my son. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!