Does anyone else feel like this?
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I personally am comfortable with my husband, and family (parents + siblings) changing my baby girl’s diaper. But don’t think I’d be comfortable with anyone else unless it’s a female friend. It’s all up to you and your comfort level! So set those boundaries now. Your mind may also change once she’s here though.
Congrats! ❤️ Husband and I also expecting our first and I think the only people besides us that we will let change his diapers are baby’s grandparents and brother and SIL in the beginning. So I definitely get feeling this way. Even though we have other friends with babies and toddlers we probably won’t have them change diapers nor do they really change diapers for each other’s babies. But we are going to have to use daycare eventually a couple days a week and we will obviously have to trust the daycare workers.
The only people that have changed my daughter is the people that are usuall trusted enough to watch her, those people have only been my mother my father and my sister, and her dad has changed her and her grandmother on her dads side a few times, no one outside of those people probably
We let close family change her but I understand your caution. My worry would be if that means no one but you and your husband could ever babysit. You'd get very tied down. Everyone needs a break from baby sometimes and so it's good to think about who you would trust to do that x
If I am leaving my baby in someone's care, then I am happy for them to change my baby (obviously). But if I'm around then generally I'll be changing her (or her dad)
It is 100 ok for you to have this boundary! Tell anyone who volunteers that it’s just a respect thing for your daughter since she can’t speak for herself.
If I can’t trust u to change my baby’s diaper then u shouldn’t be around me or my child. That’s just my opinion though. She’s just a baby , of course when she gets to certain age I believe in privacy , like her dad won’t be able to give her baths etc , we haven’t discussed what age would be appropriate for him to stop yet though
@Jody that seems odd to me
I am with you on this one! I’m the same with feeds as well! If me and my husband are around it will be either one of us feeding / changing him. Different if people are baby sitting for us, but when we are around it is us that do what baby needs. I see this as a bonding opportunity and love having that little moment just us. Family think it’s a selfish way to be, but that’s just how i view it🫶🏻 You need to do what makes you feel comfortable🩵
@Shore what’s odd ?
To not trust your husband to give your daughter a bath @Jody
@Shore did u read what I said with understanding or u just see what u wanted to see ? Did u not see the part where I said when our daughter gets to a certain age he has to stop ?
@Shore never said anything about not trusting my husband, and again let me reiterate the first line of my comment , if I can’t trust u to change my baby’s diaper then u should be around me or my child
@Jody yea I read it. Why wouldn’t your husband be able to bathe your daughter? Thats what I’m talking about
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@Shore because when she’s at a certain age I don’t think it’s appropriate anymore ? 🤨 I never said anything about not trusting my husband, I just think at a certain age our daughter should have some type of privacy where that is concerned
@Jody you’re reiterating what I think is odd
@Shore how is that odd ? Girl bye , if u want ur husband bathing ur girl child till she’s old then that’s u , do w.e u want in ur household and we’ll do what we want in ours , end of discussion, goodbye.
Obviously my daughter will one day bath/shower herself but I think as long as she needs a parent to bathe her either me or my husband would do it... Can't imagine at what age it would be inappropriate for him but not also me 🤔🤔🤔
If I’m around I am always the one to change the diaper. My husband helped in the very newborn stage but then it mostly turned into me as I’m home all day. If we have ever left her with someone (our sitters are family members) they can change her if needed, but my preference is always being a female to change her. But 95% of the time it’s me. People used to “joke” that they needed to practice or say, let so and so do it! But I agree, I prefer it to be me, followed by my husband, followed by a trusted female family member only if i am away from home for some reason. She is not a toy to practice on, she is a small human, and it’s a private thing. Trust your instincts!!