I hate questioning myself like this

He’s spoke to someone else multiple times? All different people?

@Anna like sexting and flirting but yes , met up with them , went on dates but as far as i know never slept with them. I think i found out before he could.

I went through this before! It isn’t you at at all you’re not the problem. He is the one with the problem.

You have to love yourself hun! You aren’t the problem. Men with those behaviors need help. My advice you don’t have to take it! It’s up to you hun you can leave him for a while if you guys want to start over that’s fine but you guys will need therapy or you stay but it is going to drain you. I been there but me and my husband got the help we needed and went to church he’s a new man. But before all of that I told him if he wanted a life that’s free single then go leave me alone let me move forward or we can get help and work things out and be together and raise our boys!

The problem is him. His problem is he isn't appreciating a good woman who gives her life and soul to him and the children. Supporting and raising a family. Even one child is hard work, never mind 5 and a full-time job. He would never be able to replace you. So he should be careful he dosent loose his steak at home whilst out sniffing around ham burgers. He clearly has a problem that is embedded into his personality - therapy/medication and a big fat kick up the ass and maybe a shock from you is the only thing that may change him. I say start leaving the kids with him and unexpectedly dress up and go out. (Even if you only park around the corner at a local shop) lol. Let him feel what it feels like. He needs to miss you. He needs a reminder of what he will be missing. You're the mother to his children. Ask who kelly is. Let him know you're watching, you're not scared, you're not a walk over, and you know your worth.

Do not put yourself down like that. I’m sure you are a beautiful woman inside and out and he is taking you for granted. I’m sorry this is happening to you but if you put yourself down he will start soon too and it won’t help your mental heath. Make him spend more time for with those kids because that’s a lot and you need a break to breath and relax just as much as he does. Do not give him an option to “help” those are both your kids. When you see he’s on his phone and isn’t getting off for anything you put that baby in his hands and get the kids and put them in front of him and say I’m going to take a shower or whatever you need to feel good.

He sounds like a complete waste of space, to be honest. Someone you wouldn't want your children to grow up like. Think about how your children seing this and potentially one day being aware will affect their relationships in the future. You are strong, you are beautiful, you know what to do. You've got this!! Remind yourself, look in that mirror, and tell yourself every day, "i am strong, i am beautiful, i am independent, i am worthy, i dont need anyone but me"

Dont beg, just do, and when the house comes crumbling down, shout your demands to him from the bathtub. LOL, he will soon learn. If he doesn't, he really is just a hindering your life. Ask yourself... what does he add to your life? What do you gain by being with him? You need to empower yourself again.

If tomorrow you left him, how would he cope with him and 2 children alone? Would he have time to text Kelly & the others then?

You take care of yourself! Do your hair your nails you don’t even need a salon do something for you to boost your self esteem do things that make you happy. But think of what you want to do. You don’t deserve to be going through that. If you do decide to stay with him like I said get help together or you move on for your sanity and for the children they need a happy and healthy mother!

Thank you ladies I started feeling wrong for even complaining I’ve posted in step mom groups before about him body shaming, belittling, screaming and throwing things, hitting me or the wall when called out or asked to help with anything/ spend time with us and felt so gained up on most of them told me it’s my fault to suck it up I chose this life. I was 6 months pregnant this time when he started asking when I was going to loose the weight. I feel like it’s a mind game and his type is whatever I’m not . I was thin and fit when we got together with my natural Native American hair and tan skin and I found out about plus size pale women I gained weight from pregnancy and really thin women. Everything has me so drained our youngest is 8 weeks today and honestly I just feel soo empty .

If you want to feel better you need to dump the abusive asshole. He’s the reason you are feeling this way! Nothing will get better until he is gone!

Ohhh, no, girl! This has added a whole new level of DICKHEAD! DO NOT LET HIM LAY HIS HANDS ON YOU!!!!!! Do not let him utter anything from his mouth other than love, appreciation and respect. Who does he think he is!!! Even if he was "GODS gift," he shouldn't be treating you that way. Especially as the mother of his children. I don't normally suggest leaving or breaking up with a partner or baby dad, etc, BUT HONESTLY, he needs to be thrown in the BIN

Oh no mama you got to get out of there! I’m sorry but abuse is unacceptable please run!!

I’m here for you!

Unfortunately men like that do not change!

The problem is you tolerating him behaving this way. Leave that asshole and start over with people that will be faithful to you and respect you. You deserve more than this.b