Partner acting weird with phone. Not sure what to think.

I would wait in person so that he don’t delete anything in advance just in case

@Lyss agreed

That’s not normal he’s obviously hiding something

The taking it with him could be normal. I take my phone with me weird places like the toliet or taking the trash out lol. But the grabbing from you is weird. But some people are more possessive of their stuff. Maybe he didn't like you didn't ask before using the flashlight. Make sure when you talk to him you focus more on how it makes you feel when he acts like that versus accusing him. You'll get more out of him if you don't come off accusatory.

My bf is like that too .. but he will be defensive if I ask got sure

If men ever get defensive when you ask that is the red flag. There should be no reason to get defensive. If someone is defensive on me looking at their phone I’m done. I’m out. I’m too old to play stupid games. If they do the you should just trust me bs it’s a red flag. Reassurance and trust are so crucial in relationships and if your partner can’t give you that what’s the point.

Go through it in his sleep lol. It's weird. My bf is fine with me going through it if I ask or whatever. He does take it everywhere but it's just a habit.

@Morgan, how would I word it? I just really don't want him to become defensive.

@Morgan, he has said it's in case he gets a work call, but he doesn't have the kind of job that would need to answer the phone or respond to something in that minute. I just sometimes feel he doesn't trust me or is hiding something.

Ya I feel I lost my power in my relationship.

OP your man will get defensive no matter how you approach it if he’s doing something wrong he will get defensive. The only way he won’t get defensive is if he has nothing to hide. There is nothing you can do that can trigger him in this instance only his own actions will.

Looks like my husband but he has nothing to hide. He takes the phone with him everywhere but if I touch it he will grab it from me. It’s like a limit you don’t touch my phone, I don’t touch yours. But in some cases when I asked him to show me messages on what’s up and phone he has shown me them, but still no touching the phone

It is definitely abit odd for sure, but it could just be that he's weirdly possessive over his phone, not that he has anything to hide..

Definitely weird. From my experience, my ex did this.. masses of naked women on his camera roll. Just pages and pages of porn. Then he broke his hand punching the wall next to me because he was upset I find out 🙃

I only did that when I was cheating 😭

My youngest dad used to do the exact same thing. Was sooo concerned about if he even left his phone in the room with me. Used to come back like where’s my phone all frantic and stupid about it like wtf lol come to find out he was having multiple conversations with different women, flirting , getting pictures. Etc. He didn’t consider it cheating but like duhhh it is lol I’m currently with an amazing man right now and he will leave his phone around me. He thought I asked him for his phone one day and threw it into my hands 🤣 I laughed and asked wtf he was doing and he said oh I thought you wanted to see my phone. I told him if I ever feel the need to go through / search your phone then that’s a trust issue and we don’t need to be together. Moral of the story is yes that’s suspect af of him to be like that with his phone. Any man who loves and respects you will show you that he loves / respects you!

I do this take it with me I mean cos I usually think of a task that I want to while I’m alone going to the car or toilet ect but he also knows my pin and has a finger that unlocks my phone so in this case it’s not the same my hubby has a new phone and he will show me it if I ask but is protective over it maybe ask him for the pin if you ever need to use his phone if yours is flat ect

@Imelda, I would understand that, but he touches mine. He shows me stuff on his phone, but is sometimes funny if I ask to hold it to see better. He prefers to hold the phone. I'm sure my partner doesn't have anything to hide. I think I just feel anxious because he is my first, I've been on this app and reddit too long, and he is super friendly with a particular ex female colleague. It sometimes feels flirty, and he's made sexual jokes to her. It makes me uncomfortable sometimes.

@Rebecca, I think that might be it. I know he hides porn from me. We tried to watch together once, and he was looking up videos for us to watch and kept turning the phone away from me so I couldn't see the screen. He later denied that he did that.

@Jess, I have his pin. I'm glad he trusted me enough to share that with me.

Hey just an fyi to all you ladies with sketchy men with phones not just OP I wanna let you guys know if you didn’t know apple update not that long ago made it easier to hide things for cheaters and even before that they have apps that look like regular apps like calculators and they have hidden things in it- I had an ex who kept explicit videos of me in a hidden in a calculator app. So you gotta be a detective when you do go looking in phones.

I wouldn’t go through someone’s phone , if he’s doing something it will surface. We bought a house not sure how I can leave easily

It all sounded not that weird until he took it away after the torch thing. My husband doesn’t care if I had his phone all day and used it for anything and same goes both ways with my phone.

@Kathryn that’s how it should be

@Gina im worried now. 35 can I even date someone else. This is showing me it’s a red flag

@Elizabeth of course you can. I’m 33 found my now bf at work, we’re both mechanics. I would say meeting in person is better then online because all people want online is to you know what lol but yes of course it’s still possible to find an amazing person who will love you and care about you and your child / children 💕

@Gina my baby is only 5 months

@Elizabeth that’s fine! I met someone when my youngest was 6 months after breaking up with her shitty dad lol I ended up messing around with the guy for a year and I ended things because he wanted to have kids and get married right away which isn’t what I wanted at the time. Went celibate and single for years then found this amazing man that I’m with now. Dont worry, You’ll be fine 💕

@Gina I want marriage and more kids

@Elizabeth you’ll find that. Don’t worry Elizabeth you got this! The most important thing is your well being mentally, physically and emotionally. Financially set up a budget with bills and how much you make monthly / pay and what you can save

Financially it’s hard alone too

@Gina We just bought a home