Was I rude?

My rich uncle told me to move out of our apartment I had (it was small and in a bad neighborhood) I want to give my child the best life possible so of course I said yes, my uncle raised me and I grew up with them, I moved when I was 17, anyway, now that I moved drove 17 hours with a 18 month old, they’ve blamed me for everything, between my aunt and uncle they blamed me for at least 6 things that went wrong or missing, even if it’s as simple as a lighter. My uncle just blamed me for putting a spoon down the garbage disposal when he turned it on and I said “why didn’t u check it before u turned it on” I’m 12 feet away and ur blaming me. I said idk how much longer I can take of this. I said u guys blame me for everything. I also have been cooking and cleaning after everyone and my uncle says “your the women of the house” and he acts so superior because he built this house from the ground up. I literally cook them steak dinners with crab legs every week and feed them everyday and I don’t even let my man disrespect me like this. My uncle will wait all day for my man to come home to take and the trash out. He DOES NOTHING !!! because it’s his house he thinks he can just use me . I just feel uncomfortable. It’s a brand new house and I have an almost 2 year old and I wish I never traded my privacy and small apartment for this shit.