Husband salary question

I have a Bangladeshi husband and I ask him everything, he always tells me, so not sure why he’s being defensive, just ask him “why can’t I know, I’m your wife, are you hiding anything” lol I’d just ask

Idk if it’s a cultural thing or not in Africa but there’s no need to be defensive and keeping secrets between husband and wife!!!

I have asked and he said it’s not my concern 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh my he’s rude, how do you deal with him?

Is he always like this?

Yeah sometimes…mostly about money…I think he doesn’t trust me with money me eve though for some time I was the breadwinner of the family and I worked and payed for everything long before I met him.

It's most definitely not a cultural thing. He should be transparent about his finances to you as his wife,I mean, you're accountable to each other in every way possible.

My husband is from Africa and I’ll have to be honest the first few years of our marriage he wouldn’t tell me exactly how much money he makes. But since he was taking care of my needs I didn’t push it. I gave him time. Then he started before more upfront with me without me asking. But I agree ☝🏼 money should be transparent.

My husband is also African and he's always told me how much his salary was when he had a regular one. I always took care of our budget though so I had to know. If he's the sole financial provider I feel like you should know his salary. Do you have direct access to the money or does he just give you some weekly for spending on groceries and things?

It's impolite for him to withhold this. Ask yourself, how would your Wali respond to this type of attitude before marriage? You all file taxes together, I'm sure, so he needs to get over it.

Assalamu alaikum sister 🤍 I am African myself, and I wanted to reassure you: there is nothing intrusive about asking such a question to your husband. You are his wife, the mother of his children, his life partner, and you form a team. In a marriage, financial transparency is essential to building mutual trust and managing family responsibilities together. That said, his reluctance could be linked to his responsibilities toward his family back home, which is often the case for many people of African origin. Sometimes, families back home may have high financial expectations of those living abroad. This can be challenging to manage, and he might be trying to prevent these responsibilities from becoming a source of conflict between you two. Tell him in a calm and gentle way that you're not trying to be intrusive, but it’s natural as a life partner to want to know. May Allah ease things for you, ameen 🫶🏽