Am I being unreasonsable?
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No its absolutely not, especially since mom wont be here forever. Soak up as much time with her as you can. If he doesn’t like you taking baby offer him to keep her overnight by himself when you go to moms. Then start going every week so you can get a baby break. I bet he will change his mind
My husband loves a night away when we go sleep at my moms!
Can he go with you on overnights if it is that big of a deal to him? I take our son every other month or so for atleast a week to stay with my mom/family who live 9 hours away. My husband doesnt love us being gone but has never made me feel guilty or tried to get me not to go. It's good for me and our boy (soon to be boys) to get that time with family. He comes when he can but usually has to work and isn't able to get away. If you're comfortable leaving baby for a night that's an option too but I don't think it's unreasonable for you to get that quality time with your mom.
You are doing a great job balancing it all. If anything, i think you could be spending more time at your mom's house. Your husband could go and stay with you at your mom's sometimes, it's his choice to stay home. You're taking baby because you have to. He's not offering to take her for these nights. Your baby doesn't need these groups right now, but your mom does need your care. Your partner will not even remember these nights in the long relationship he has with his daughter. You will remember being a good daughter and the time your mom spends with your daughter as a baby. Go without guilt. Take lots of pictures. Take video. It's a hard road to walk, but I wish you small comforts along the way. ❤️
I think you've got the balance perfect and you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty for. But offer to leave baby home with him next sleepover, if he wants
He's taking it too far. It's not that much sheesh.
As someone who has a mom in liver failure that lives 2.5 hours away, I think it's wonderful that you are making the time to spend with your mom and including your baby/your mom's grandbaby. I'm pregnant with my second daughter and my mom's second grandchild and there's a chance she'll never meet her. You are not being unreasonable with the time you are spending with her. I think your husband can handle the baby being away one night every two weeks. I'm sure you would be equally supportive of your husband if it was his parent(s) that he was helping care for and bringing the baby along for the day and the night stay. I don't think you have to take her to baby groups either. I never took my first daughter to baby groups and she's doing just fine at 12 years old.