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So I dropped out of school to take care of my baby to let my boyfriend continue in school. He’s dorming 3 hours away. I understand that he has school and is busy but it feels like he forgets about us and never checks on the baby. Earlier this year he promised that he wanted to get married and he, himself, set a date for December. So I became excited and began planning and talking about it then he stopped taking my calls and responding to texts. A few weeks had gone by where he’d respond but like very short messages, then he said he didn’t want to get married claiming it was too soon. We’ve been working on our communication, feels more like me. And now he’s saying he’s ready for marriage again and set a date for March. He comes home to visit but today he’s starting again to not really respond to my messages. I don’t know what to do. I’ve spoken about how it makes me feel what should I do now?

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I would not get married to someone who doesn’t seem the most reliable in the communication department. And how much do you trust him cuz dorming that far away and him disappearing and giving short responses… seems sketchy… i would wait to see him in person and ask to see his phone cuz something doesn’t seem right on his end.

Marriage is just a piece of paper. It won't make him a better man or father. It just creates legal headaches if you two can't work things out. You chose to scarifies your education and your status to be a girlfriend and mother -- that means you have to adjust your choices to do what's best for you and your child. From my experience, when someone shows you who they are, it is your job to believe them (even if it hurts). If he shows you he's not invested and doesn't care, you need to believe his actions. Otherwise, you spend weeks, months, and even years being frustrated with a person who says one thing but never delivers. You sound like a smart, resilient woman. Time will work things out. It always does. It will just depend on how long you want to struggle. Give yourself time to reflect. There is no rush to marry. I wish you and your LO the best of luck. Stay strong 💪

Seems like he’s more interested in school and hanging out with friends than you guys. I honestly wouldn’t get married to him. Or wait till you guys are in person to have a full on conversation. His actions speak louder than his words