The Christmas story

i don’t understand the story, but my mom just says “Mommy-Claus” bought the gifts.

@Nia mommy- Claus I like that. I never heard this before

@Raven yeah i do too! idk if she came up with it or heard it somewhere but i’m definitely gonna use this one when mine are old enough to understand

The world isn’t black and white and there’s grey area. I wouldn’t consider it lying. I would consider it keeping magic alive. There’s nothing wrong with a little fantasy in life

People read a little too much into the Santa thing. It’s a cute story to feed kids’ imaginations and as they get older and slowly learn to rationalise it becomes obsolete. Like the tooth fairy etc. It doesn’t teach them to lie or deceive. Ofc tell your child whatever you like and if you don’t wanna raise them to believe in Santa that’s totally cool! But I don’t think we need to make it that deep

@Mary 🤡👽🦹🏽‍♀️ i was thinking about trying to keep the magic alive . I just don't want my son to stop trusting me anymore -like the way I stop trusting my mom. For reasons beyond Santa but that is a whole 'other situation.

St. Nicholas was real so it still keeps things biblical and I wouldn’t say it’s lying. We do Santa, but we keep Christ in Christmas.

Also like you said, you didn’t stop trusting your mom because of Santa clause it was bigger stuff than that. I remember when I found out Santa wasn’t real. (I noticed my dads wedding ring lol) I didn’t think anything of it. I just grew out of it. It didn’t impact whether I lied or not. I still like taking family pictures with Santa lol!

Any kid that stops trusting their parents does so for reasons that have nothing to do with Santa or the Tooth Fairy. We have to embrace reality as an adult. Don't deprive your child of the magic of believing. Let them embrace it for as long as possible because reality is a slap in the face.

Santa is different in our culture. He only brings shoes and chocolates at the start of December... my neices and nephews more think of Santa as someone you have your photo with at the shopping centre lol

@Kianna what you said 💕 Jesus is the reason for the season but Father Christmas can bring joy to young children. Doesn’t take away from the fact that Christmas is about Christ in our house xx

When I was a kid, we would get one present from "santa". The rest from family

@Raven I get it babe, and you’ll find the happy medium for you and your son. Our parents did a number on us but it’s for us to navigate how to be with our kids. If you’ll allow movies, cartoons, books, then allow some fantasy for Christmas too. I’m not Christian at all, my partner is and he taught me that Santa is the spirit of the holidays. We give his daughter generic gifts from him. Like board games for example. Santa isn’t personal and gives out a present that he will give anyone. That’s how we do it in our house. Make it your own and find a way that you’re comfortable with to be true to yourself and still keep the magic and spirit of the holidays for a child

I don't think "lying" to your kid about santa is bad. It's what makes christmas special for them once they are young. Kids don't need to understand and know everything. You are in charge of their childhood to make it special. I'm sure they will forgive you about "lying" telling them that santa is real. I don't think there is a growen adult that is upset with their parents for lying about santa 🤣❤️

He also does an angel tree with his daughter. So they get to be Santa for kids in need. They pick names from a tree in the mall and shop for what the kid requested. Make Christmas and Santa whatever you want with your morals. For us he’s a symbol of the Christmas spirit. Hope that helps babe

I thought my dad could lift a car with his own hands as a kid but grew up to know in reality he couldn’t, I think kids think in magical things and the ones who remember believing weren’t hurt or felt betrayed (at least for long as a kid lol) so I’m gunna keep on w my Santa shi I respect everyone’s choice for their child tho🫶