Does your bf/husband watch your child while you cook/clean/etc?

She also just got into some old lipstick I had in a storage box and took everything out of that box while he just sat in his chair and talked to his friends. He didn’t check on her once and I’m in the kitchen cooking. It’s so frustrating and I’m not stressed bc of my daughter I’m stressed bc he doesn’t help how he needs to

Why isn't he doing is part? Does he even try to defend himself? I don't understand what possible reason he could stand by! Doesn't sound like he's doing any parenting!

i’m lucky to have a man that will do pretty much anything i need or ask 😅 but your husband needs to step up and be a parent and a partner! what he’s doing is unsafe and irresponsible. i’m sorry you have to deal with that

@Caroline his game is more important apparently. He claims he doesn’t wanna come home from work and watch her all night he’d rather do what he wants to do. He’s told me “I can’t pause the game” and I’m like “then turn the game off” and he says no

Maybe he wants u to tell him like make it clear like hey the child is 100% under ur care now.. maybe he will listen

@Om tried this. He thinks everything has to be 50/50 when he’s home but when he’s on the game he wants me to have 100% responsibility. And on top of that, I wfh with my toddler so I’m with her 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I’m not complaining I love being home with her and working but she’s doing things while I’m working too so I feel like when he gets home he should have full responsibility. He won’t cook or make dinner and if I don’t cook he’ll just order himself something so I’m left with 95% of the responsibility

My men will cook with out baby around so I can have a break after a full day with our baby. Don't accept anything below that. You are not a slave for your family

Oh nah he needs to get tf off that game!! He has real responsibilities now!! You didn’t make that baby by yourself!! He’s a man child and need to get tf off the game and help around the house!! I would unplug that game and literally put his child on his lap and walk away!! Enough is enough!!! Make him do his part!! Sick of men thinking they got the easy way out!! It’s take 2!!!

Oh, ok, am I right he DOES play with her but not when you're cooking? First you made it sound like he does NOTHING then said he does 50% when home and you want him to do 100%

@Ella Yeah..When he is supposed to be watching the baby, as the mom is busy, he doesn’t give the baby all of his attention and therefore the baby will explore her surroundings and touch things that she’s not supposed to..

I understand u cos my man does that sometimes. This morning I was in the bedroom breastfeeding our 6 months old baby. My husband then follows me leaving the 2 toddlers in the kitchen by themselves. I’m like when u are here, who is watching them? Yes he does play with them.. the issue is when we are NOT around, they don’t focus 100% on the kids, leaving them to get naughty.. I sent him ur post and said “look at ur twin”

@Ella no he doesn’t do 50%. I said he wants everything to BE 50/50 but when he’s home the only thing he’ll do is give her a bath maybe 2-3 times out of the week and play with her maybe 5-10 minutes. She’s 3. She needs more than 5-10 minutes of play. And I try to play with her while I’m working or after I get off (we have an hour together before I have to pick him up from work) but she still needs her father’s attention too

@Om lol that’s hilarious not his twin 😂. But yea even when I’m in the shower I can’t get a break. He’ll get on the game and she’ll be in the bedroom touching everything and throwing clothes everywhere. I haven’t been able to take a peaceful shower in like 8 months. We were living with my mom for a while and she did more than he does

Ah okay. Well then yeah maybe it's time to leave.

I'm sorry but why having another child with him if you are already struggling getting him do his part with your daughter.....it's just going to get worst for you. Try to have a good conversation with him but it seems you already tried. How old is he? It can be dangerous for your daughter to be able to explore and take things she shouldn't. Maybe try having her with you when you cook. How old is she? a learning tower would help her being with you when you cook. But he needs to step up as a parent

No advice but I hate when I go to lay down for a minute (for the same exact reason) and my bd comes in there and lays down too. Like wtf are you doing, go watch the mf kids. Smfh

Yeah so what about just watching his daughter for 30 min while you cook? That’s very different from all night. He sounds like a dud

He’s not caring for the safety of your child (and his). I would bring that to his attention. She can get hurt. He either needs to take over the cooking. Or watch her. She can’t be unsupervised

yes or he cooks

@Marie he promised e so many times that he was gone work on it and when I got pregnant it was after 2 miscarriages so I didn’t think I’d get pregnant tbh we weren’t rlly trying I was working on myself and he was supposed to be working on himself but wasn’t. He’s 29 our daughter is 3

@Jadie he won’t cook I’ve tried to get him to help since my pregnancy is high risk and I get dizzy if I stand too long but he just doesn’t seem to care. I’m planning on leaving him

Why are you with him still? You’re doing it all on your own either way. Cut the dead weight

That's sad. Sorry you are dealing with that. Good on you to think of leaving him. It seems like he can't keep promises, do his part as a parent and care for you especially when you are pregnant. Can't believe he is ok to order food for himself and nothing for you and his daughter. I hope you'll have support when you'll leave him, especially when having another child coming. Good luck

Your partner is a lazy waste of space, honestly though why are you having another child with him? Did you get caught on contraception or something? I would've been long gone he's taking the piss out of you and treating you and your daughter like absolute garbage, neither or you deserve that

That’s not right. I thought it was one of those situations whereby he follows u if you go to the bedroom like Chloe said cos with mine if I tell him u are 100% responsible for the child now, he does look after them.. But damn, what he is doing is totally wrong. It sounds like he doesn’t want to be a father at all. I suggest moving back in with ur parents for support cos that man child is not going to change. Some things are common sense, especially as u mentioned that u feel dizzy when u stand, the fact that he still doesn’t get it or care, then I honestly do not see a reason why you should be with someone like that.

@Becky So much anger. Heal.

@Om no anger I just don't mix my words

I prefer to watch my child and have him clean and do etc.

That's definitely not right. He's the parent too and should be helping when he's home. My husband usually cooks dinner when he gets home and I'll watch the kids. But I'm also into theater and am currently doing a show, so I go to rehearsals in the evening and he stays home watching our almost 3 year old and our 6 week old. He encourages me to pursue my passions and never complains about having the kids by himself because he is their dad and that SHOULD be an expectation that he can care for his kids without handing them off to me all the time. Frustrates me to no end when someone asks "who's watching the kids" if I'm out doing something because nobody would ever ask my husband that 🙄

Yes or cleans himself and helps out

Yes if I tell him too he took is autistic like my son so I just need to say when