Help! Sex question: have there been times where u don’t get wet or crave sex from ur husband? How long was that period?

If you aren't getting wet or horny why are you still having sex once a week? Maybe taking a break instead of doing it when you dont want to might actually help build up some excitement and make it more enjoyable?

When we had my daughter it was easy to get lost in everything else and we forgot to make time for us. We’ve been planning for dates and weekends away so we can enjoy each other and build that intimacy back up. Ive been trying to do more for myself outside of motherhood too to feel like a woman again.

Is there any resentment that you feel towards him? Possibly from how he has or hasn't stepped during your postpartum or with baby? Possibly with how he acted during the birth? Possibly that he wants sex and you're not ready? I would dig into that and clear the air if there is anything like that going on. Not in an accusing way, but in an intimate connection building way. And if you're feeling up to it, I'd start building intimacy and connection in other ways for a while before trying for sex. Connecting during the day. Hugs, kisses, hand holding. Joking, play, fun. Remember why you married him. Put your marriage as a foundation of living... it's easy to forget to do that overtime, especially with kids.

Could it be your contraception? Birth control? I realised the pill and implant completely took my libido - made an informed choice of the Mirina coil now (less hormones) and I feel a bit better, but then it could be placebo affect.

Lasted a few months for me. My OBGYN said if it lasted longer after my pregnancy hormones leveled out, she could prescribe something, pretty sure it was estrogen cream that you apply vaginally, similar to what they give during menopause. If you haven't yet, try lube first. It might make things more pleasurable for both of you. Also the above comments have great advice. Rekindling some romance with dates, having sex less frequently/ not out of obligation and letting the tension build up, and even just trying foreplay, lube, toys, etc. are all great options. If you drink, maybe share a small bottle of wine and have a little date at home after the kids are in bed. My number one tip that always rekindles it for us: shower together. Not in a sexy way, just an intimate way. It really helps.