Am I overreacting?

My bd is always talking down to me, I never use to know how to cook before I had a baby, she’s 2 now so I’m 2 years into cooking and still learning. Also she’s really picky so I don’t make much for her but rice and chicken or pastas and sometimes oven made dinners like chicken nuggets or pizza. But my bd likes to make fun of me and tell me my baby is a microwave baby. He makes me feel incompetent at pretty much everything I do. Driving, ordering food, even the way I respond to him. He corrects me when I say yea and tells me “yes” is the correct way to respond. So today I was cooking hamburger helper from the box, which is something super easy to make, and he walked up to me as I was cooking and in a condescending way he said “you got it? Do you need some help?” I just felt like that was my last straw, because it’s not about this one time it’s just a build up of negative affirmations from him. So when he tried to approach me again as I’m cooking to hug and kiss me I was by the sink and flicked water at him and pushed him and told him to back up and leave me alone he was like whatever and walked away. And after I was done cooking I went to the room and he came in and tried to lay with me and I pushed him away with my foot and after that second time he was pissed and started randomly accusing me of wanting better and wanting to be a single mom and then he left. But after I cool down I wonder if I overreacted or if I just let him guilt trip me into thinking I did.

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He is guilt tripping you. You have put up with it for so long that this new reaction is throwing him off. Talk to him and if he doesn’t change how he belittle you then follow your heart. No one should be treated like that, I’m sure as hell he wouldnt like it either.

I’m always tempted to write “just punch him in the face” on posts like this (AS A JOKE) but also don’t want people to think I’m actually condoning physical abuse but OMG.. this would drive me INSANE Just remember this: you know who you are and aren’t, what you are or are not capable of. Trust in your own truth and don’t let someone else’s nasty ways make you believe you aren’t good enough I would’ve been way nastier in reaction and I believe that you hardly reacted at all let alone overreacted!

The first time you felt uncomfortable you should have communicated it as that is someone who your supposed to be building with but if you feel this is something his doing intentionally to be malicious then put your foot down and explain your trying your best and you don’t appreciate it. You should try and perfect two dishes he likes and see if things change sometimes men want the best for you and dunno how to express that, Hope you can sort your differences 🤍

@Khanie honestly I checked out so long ago. I stopped trying to have these talks with him because he just scoffs and rolls his eyes and tells me I’m drama and annoying. I think he knows that he’s not mounting up to the man I need or any other woman needs. He use to be married and his wife cheated on him with a man at work, the dishwasher to be exact, and I don’t condone cheating but I’m starting to see why.

@Sera Kay ✨ lol no really this was a calm reaction out of me! Because we’ve gotten into really bad fights where I push his head/face. He never use to but he’s starting to hit back 🥴 also my daughter is 2 1/2 now so she’s becoming more aware and I noticed she was starting to get scared when he was aggressively accusing me of things and talking sh*t. It took a lot of strength to not get up and get in his face but this time I just ignored him and engaged in play with my daughter

Hey he is an asshole, and wrong for talking down to you and belittling you. You’re right to feel the way you feel, but don’t put your hands on him or anybody else. If you two can’t find a solution for this situation, leave him. But don’t hit him just because you’re angry, it doesn’t justify it. What if he hits you back? Would you like it if he hits you because he’s mad at you?

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