It's really normal to do this as you don't know when they'll have space for your child. If they call you to offer a space but you're already happy with another nursery just tell them that and they'll move on to the next person in their very long list. At least where we lived in London it was absolutely expected that you'd be on several waiting lists.
I think being on waiting lists of multiple is fine. But it’s not fine to accept places at 2 for a future accept date
Not something I would ever do, mainly because I wouldn’t want to loose my deposit. I think for me you pick your nursery that you are happy with and that’s right for you and you stick with that decision. Who knows what will happen in the future at any point, can’t really live life like that x
That seems a bit unfair on the nurseries to be honest. The funding has hit their finances hard and whilst it’s unlucky for your friend, I think it’s rare to have that situation