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Husbands and newborn stage
Is anyone else’s husband annoying the hell out of them when it comes to taking care of the newborn?
Parenting is a 2 person effort and yet I’m pulling like 90% of the work from laundry to the baby himself to feeding (we do a combination) to everything. I also feel like when it is his turn for once, and he successfully puts our boy down to sleep, he runs out so fast. Sometimes when he’s unable to put him down he literally comes to me and says “you take over” and gives up really quick and easily.
Also, he cannot take feedback if I make a comment about him doing something that isn’t ideal for baby, gets personally offended easily and just doesn’t react well.
I’m so over his attitude and lack of educating himself about what to do… I never felt this way about him until we had our little one a few months ago!
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I felt the feedback part so much!! It’s like I’m not saying you’re a bad father, I’m just tryna redirect bc we are both the parents 🥹 it’s very hard! But no you’re not alone. The conversations were hard but worth it- I had to explain I’m not tryna tear him down as a dad or be helicopter mom while also hearing him out when he said he needs more autonomy when it comes to being a dad
I had this exact issue with my fiancé. I handled all the night feedings and morning feedings when we were both leave. I told him this wasn’t a vacation for either of us. Finally at one point from pure exhaustion I told him if it remains this way we weren’t going to make it because I was growing resentful. That seemed to have been the wake up call
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Ugh that's annoying. I get that he doesn't have experience but neither do women. I'd sit him down and have a talk with him about how you need more support and that you just want what's best for the baby. He shouldn't take gently phrased corrections as criticism