Court
Show your support
I didn’t get much throughout the relationship but I’m starting to get some proof now over text. I have proof of the threats/blackmail. I just can’t bare the thought of him having any more contact. I feel stuck in between and rock and a hard place. I know it’s not ok for him to carry on abusing me. For our daughter to witness that and be stuck in the middle. But I also have so many safeguarding concerns that I’m scared won’t be listen too..
If you don’t have an attorney you NEED to get one. If you bring up abuse yourself you’ll most likely end up getting less time. Your attorney will know what to say what the judge wants to hear etc. also look up custody cases at the courthouse you’re case is at and go to a few hearings and listen in just to get an idea of what to expect. Even with solid proof it’s hard. I mean police reports not just screenshots witnesses (neighbor, social worker) etc. men that actually fight for their kids get them almost 100% of the time.
Do you have written proof? If so screenshot/copy/email/send to someone else also. Keep any and all proof you may have. *this has been recently advised to me too* I will be going to court for an updated family violence intervention order - despite the kids never being physically abused, they’re protected under the FVIO too and I’ll be doing my absolute damn best to ensure he never sees them again or our unborn daughter. I’d rather fight him in court than be abused, controlled or manipulated any further. And the same goes for them too. Despite being a healthy 30yo I’m also getting a will written up to get guardianship of my children to go to my sister and no one else. It’s a lot. But you are so strong. You are worth happiness and peace and so does your little one