Pregnancy advice

Hey Ladies, just coming for some friendly advice / words of motivation / any support as to whether I’m doing the wrong or right thing without judgement (hence posting anonymously) So Iv just found out I’m pregnant, whilst it wasn’t planned and has come as a big shock, I always stand by certain things are supposed to happen at certain times in your life, and I’m excited. My partner of 12 years on the other hand has said we aren’t in the position to have another child and it’s either abortion or being a single parent. Iv told him to pack his bags. Am I doing the wrong thing not listening to his side of the arguement, should I be considering having an abortion based on his feelings of not wanting another child? Or am I strong enough to do this alone? I will essentially end up homeless without a job and with a 3 year old short time if I continue with the pregnancy and I don’t know if I’m making the right decision. I really want this baby and hearing that he doesn’t has broken me. Please no judgment I’m struggling as it is 💔

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Listen to your heart. Will you resent him if you do what he wants or how would you feel about yourself if you terminate? To me, it’s sounds as though you are strong enough to go on your own. There will be plenty of help for you- speak to your midwife once you have one. They can put you in contact with whatever help you need- housing, benefits etc. And to be fair- I don’t think anyone is ever in a position to have children these days, it’s so hard. We make it work, that’s what makes us good parents. To me, it sounds as though you’ve made up your mind. I wish you all the best of luck and pray everything works out for you xx

It sounds to me like you’ve already made your mind up😌 No one is ever prepared for another baby and I’m not being funny every one has financial struggles. Don’t ever doubt yourself! You can do this 100%! The fact he’s given you an ultimatum as well isn’t fair as he needs to think about you as well, yes it works both way but he’s the one giving you that ultimatum of it’s an abortion or single parent with your 3 year old!. You just need to go with your gut. I hope this helps. If you ever need someone to speak to please reach out. You will get through this x

Honestly, we kept getting broody but we said we can’t have another child until we move out the flat and earn more money but then we found out we were expecting around this time last year. I was really worried my partner would kick off about it all as we were struggling but he was so happy. Honestly she is the most wonderful baby and my little boy is so happy to have a sibling. Both our kids came at the wrong time financially but we got out two perfect loves 🥹 This time round I have pushed to breastfeed to save money (isn’t necessary of course) and I’ve used Vinted so much for her clothes. There are ways to budget but I can understand the stress if you can’t hand down a lot of things from your first baby or family buy bits. Him giving you an ultimatum is terrible…. Do you think he is feeling very stressed about the situation and lashing out or do you think he actually means this in his heart? Do what is best for you of course. I just hope you are ok! X

Having had a baby and knowing how you feel about them I think it would be unbearably hard to not progress with this pregnancy, I think your partner will come round and if he doesn’t he wasn’t worth it. That said, he will have to support you - really annoys me that men who know the consequences of their actions leave the woman to have to make these huge decisions when he could have made a very small one if he knew it wasn’t the right time for another child.