What should I do?

I need advice on what to do in my marriage, i don’t know where to start but it’s too much for me to handle anymore he called me an f****ing b**** and he gets too angry and we have 3 kids, I want things to work but he always puts his feelings first- I signed up for counseling- I need advice or someone to talk to. He tells me just get a lawyer and all this stuff and he is too easily tiggered. I ask him to hear me out and he says no, to change his tone and have empathy but then he says I don’t have empathy for him. Sigh I am not close with my family on the level of where I can share what I am going through 😔