Am I enough?rant post‼️

Me and my husband had a talk about our intimacy. He says that he feels burnout of chasing me which I get it 100% but I haven't told him that I always felt like I wasn't enough to satisfy him in general. I feel like a complete failure as a wife. Idk what I can do because I never had any experience ( that's because of super religious parents ) I never had sex other than my husband. He was my first and I often feel like I'm never enough to even please him. I've been soo exhausted because I'm a SAHM and often a lot I'm always touched out or burnout. He says I'm enough but I feel like I'm not😞 I guess I'm not the wife he wanted to even marry. Anyways I'm sorry for the rant I just wanted to get it off my chest I just don't have the heart to tell him on this yet.

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You are only hurting your relationship by making yourself small by not being honest about your feelings. It is not fair to either one of you.

@Lyss I've grown up in a household where opening on feels was just cut off completely. I've always had a very hard time expressing my feelings and emotions because I was always told pray to god for this pray to go for that and another is oh? Your sad? Go clean? Your depressed? pray and clean . It's just one of those things I'm trying to work on my self but I understand on that your saying I appreciate it a lot

I saw your post and lost it and literally searched for over 30 minutes hoping I’d find it again because I needed to read that someone else is feeling similar to me. So first off, thanks for posting. My husband has been talking about hating me and resenting me and us heading for divorce recently. Turns out it’s two things but to him the most important is the lack of intimacy. (Other is that I don’t finish shit/ follow through) He will complain that we only have sex once a month which is always exaggerated from once a week. Today he said 3 months and we gad sex a few days ago. I’ve always felt I couldn’t meet his needs or got the timing wrong and 7 years in I find out it’s not me (not gonna go there on here) then we fix that problem up a little and again the problem is me. Well he made Me feel unwanted and needy so I changed my approach to nothing. I literally got rid of my love language: touch. We have a baby, he’s 9.5 months and we are going thru the roommate problem. Breastfeeding…

… Breastfeeding… and raising our boy (and getting pregnant again) has left me feeling depleted and exhausted and like my body isn’t my own. I have no drive. And he resents me for it. Does he ever put a move on me? No, it’s all up to me. I wish he would chase me! That’s a bit g part of how we got together! He chased me so hard! But I don’t feel like I have enough or am enough for him in bed. He’s much more sexually outgoing than I am. I have a lot of shame from my upbringing about sex. Sometimes I just want vanilla sex, not porn fantasy sex. Anyway we are trying to start up sessions with an intimacy coach, again.

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