“I’m not wearing that “

Had a baby went through and I’m finally ready to have sex but what’s holding me back is my husband is refusing to wear a condom??? He would rather never have sex if he has to wear that according to him. He’s also against me getting toys and doing the job myself I can’t even sneak one because we have a doorbell camera and he opens my mail and packages.. I know I could get the coil etc but I really don’t want anymore hormonal issues and imbalances. I have PND and I’m on antidepressants, already feel a huge disconnect with my husband after a traumatic pregnancy and emergency section with my premature baby. His reasoning is it reduces the sensation for him and he thinks it’s “gay” stupid comment and tbh I’m desensitised by the amount of ridiculous statements and comments he has made… what do I do?

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He can’t respect you, don’t have sex with him. Simple as that I don’t have sex and I’m perfectly content with that

wtf? he's trying to control your access to your body? that's incredibly wrong. do you have a sex shop in your town or nearby? and don't cave, if you want him to wear a condom then he needs to wear a damn condom or get a mf vasectomy. the absolute audacity of this asshole to tell you that you can't use toys is so gross to me

I'd be asking him if he's really so insecure that he's afraid that you'll prefer toys over him, and his response will definitely be "why do you need toys if I'm literally right here and willing to have sex" which i would respond "toys won't run the risk of getting me pregnant or disrespecting me"

This is controlling and abusive behavior if he’s not allowing you to prevent pregnancy or pleasure yourself. You’ll know what to do when you’re ready

First of all I agree your husband is a AH. Also though, you could get a copper IUD which has no hormones. I went for that route because the pills were really messing up my hormones and made me depressed

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ I hear you but it’s been a sexless marriage for a while and a girl has needs 🤧

@Sarah ikr I think he finds it emasculating he tried once and refused to try it again

@Nichelle it’s reaching a point of no return I feel so stupid for still trying but all I wanted is a healthy and happy family and marriage and it’s far from it

which part, the condom? girl if you lived anywhere near me i would literally let you have whatever toys you wanted shipped to my house and I'd bring them to you lol, I'd sneak them through the window or something so he wouldn't "catch" you 😂 i laugh but honestly it's really sad that it would have to come to that. you have full autonomy and should be able to do what you want with your own body. I bet he jacks off so really what's the difference??

You’re not stupid for still trying. It’s natural to want that and it sucks when the other person isn’t on the same page. The best thing you can do is focus on you and your kids and showing them what a healthy family looks like even if it’s a separate household

Sorry to hear that. I never needed it and I’m perfectly happy without it. Good luck 🍀

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