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@Jaleasa I have brought kt up to the health visitor on her last visit. She told me I needed a referral from school, but because she’s doing so well I don’t think they’ll do one. I’ve spoken to her school and they said they’d do a meeting between me and the SEND teacher, which hasn’t happened
I'm not sure where you live, but that's not necessarily true. You can get a referral from your pediatrician. I'm not sure why she would say otherwise. I'd maybe Google and see what your local laws or regulations say about that. It's also unfortunate that the school isn't listening to or respecting your request. I'd continue to pressure them about that meeting and why.
@Jaleasa it sounds like op is not in the USA
What makes you think she is autistic? Take her to the GP and/or Paediatrician. Depending on where you are, the school doesn't need to do anything. It's wild to me that the school would, regardless of where you live. Does it help if they back you up, yes. Is it necessary, no. My son is being assessed, but where I live, Australia, they don't diagnose until 4/5 years old. We are on top of things, and he's in therapy. School had nothing to do with it. I noticed it, I ran with it. I actually ended up pulling him from care. He has an appointment next December to be officially assessed. So he can possibly receive an official diagnosis that will allow him to get the support he needs the following year as he transitions to school. Trust you instincts and fight!
Doesn’t sound like autism to me just typical toddler behaviour especially if this is the only thing she does. My son is almost 3 and got his official autism diagnosis in September
Try some play therapy. One of the colleges near me had a center that worked with children and I was able to do it with my daughter when she was small.
Sounds like autism. Have a 5 year old with level 3 his the same but he also has adhd what slot of Ripley don't know if you have autism you more likely also have adhd that behaviour your seeing us adhd classic behaviour. Get her diagnosed as soon as you can. But your doing awesome that you play so much attention to noticed these signs some parents blow it off as hyperactive child so. Praise you both to seeing your child and seeing the concerns once a diagnosis is made you will cry because finally you know how to help her and there's a lot of supports once she's diagnosed. Try to keep us posted it will be a hard journey but you have this but you have us mamas who get what your going through
My daughter is the same but hurts herself not others seems like she is masking .. I had so much guilt I started to think I was a very bad parent because I was dealing with it at home and at others she was fine … climbing is sensory seeking behavior so maybe get a indoor trampoline stepping stones that’s what helped us
Get her assessed and if she is than I suggest ABA while it can be controversial if you find a good company it can help a lot my daughter has been in it for 2 years now and has helped so much I am lucky that the company has in home sessions so I overlook everything they do and have learned a lot myself
Good ideas Elizabeth I have a mini tramp with a holding bar UTs great I e set up a sensory room fir my son it has touch lights on the walls snd at the front door I've set up those push touch lamp round ones on the walls snd at neat front door and above each light is a picture and word it's a routine fir getting ready fir school and I press them all on snd as he dies each thing he presses light iff so he knows his completed that task. Visuals help autistic children understand how to communicate and engage
There is a reason why she is doing a behavior 4 functions Sensory seeking Escape Attention Tangible/ denied access to something or someone Once u figure why she is doing the behavior try different approaches on how to decrease it consistency is key It takes months for my daughter to learn a new skill or decrease a behavior
If you can set up somewhere in your home a sensory area fir her to regulate her own space I did this snd I'm having less severe meltdowns. My sons starting school next year and I've being told his behaviours may get intense due to the big change so I'm getting anxiety any mums eith tips when child starts school to regulate?
@Elizabeth oh yeah she hurts herself too, she bites, hits, pinches herself. And licks everything, fingers / hands are always in her mouth. We used to have a little indoor trampoline tbf and she loved it, she’d turn it upside down and climb on it, hide under it etc but then she broke it😂. We do have a big one in the garden, we just struggle to get her dressed to go out. What is ABA? I’m from UK, so idk if that’s just a thing where you are.
It’s so difficult because she’s obviously an angel for everyone, listens, doesn’t hurt other etc (she does seem nervous/scared when others tell her off) and she’s not developmentally delayed either, she’s doing amazing in school so people don’t see what we see. She also hates getting dressed, hates the feel of her blanket if there’s a crease by her feet. She has little obsessions (lately it’s snowmen). She won’t eat certain food if it feels weird, before even biting it or if it looks weird.
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Oh yeah my daughter was the same she was diagnosed level 2 .. I’m in California it is applied behavioral analysis therapy it’s a type of therapy that helps with behaviors exactly what u described I’m sure the uk has it as well should really look into it my daughters therapist are very play based so she has improved so much because my daughter sees it as fun and interactive
Oh yes that’s how my daughter is before I got her diagnosed I felt so overwhelmed because I felt like I was doing something wrong but it’s the opposite when your child is with you the act like that because they trust that they can be themselves with you as to oppose family friends or teachers they are a bit scared so it’s like a defense mechanism… my daughter is literally the same
@Elizabeth honestly makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong too. I love that my daughter is so well behaved for everyone else, but it makes me feel like a shit mum hearing all about it because she’s the complete opposite for us. I’m so glad to hear someone else’s child is the same aha
My son is violent hurts our cat in a rage when disregulated since assigned a begaioursty his a lot better
My toddler is the same! Look into PANDAS. I had a boy who was an ANGEL at school and a terror at home. He was diagnosed. It’s hard to get, but keep advocating!
lol for a specific autism advocating service my son has one that's advocated fir him regarding schooling options it's being a game changer as I found me alone wasent enough to get what my son needed education wise just found them by giggling autism advocacy in your area
She feel safe at home like it’s where she can be a wild animal that’s good you have to make your home safe for her that’s all you can do really and make sure everyone is safe around her to
If you believe your child to be autistic, I'd suggest getting them diagnosed. You're open to a world of resources once you get the official diagnosis.