Hurtful words or justified?

I’m currently 2 months post partum. Had a huge argument with husband they other day as he recently has become extremely disconnected with me more than he was when I was pregnant (which we used to have issues about) his reasoning when i confronted his lack of consideration to make time for me show me love and care was because I’m “boring and have no ambition or hobbies” is he valid in his reasoning? He has no care for intimacy not kisses cuddles or sex during pregnancy and now, when I initiate he’s either tired or gaming. My life has changed dramatically I literally have almost no time for myself I look after baby throughout the night she sleeps for a good 4 hour stretch between 3-6 but has feeds 12, 2, 7, 9, 11 am then I hand him the baby and sleep till 3pm then I’m back up doing laundry washing dishes cooking dinner folding clothes mopping floors cleaning the bathroom I fit in a shower every day and before I know it it’s dark out and cold and if you live in England it’s bloody raining most of the time I don’t have the capacity to take baby out as I don’t drive. For him to say I have no ambition and im boring was so hurtful because I carry such a heavy load 2 months post partum adjusting to being a first time Mom. I’m on maternity leave atm and I think even if I had hobbies he wouldn’t give me the freedom to explore it because I’m always the default parent he suggested I go gym lift weights take up knitting but I have no interest in anything atm I’m on anti depressant and just trying to get by …

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I think it's inconsiderate to purposefully hurt your partner woth your words. Is he willing to pick up more slack so you can have time off too?

@Heather no he’s already moaned about looking after her in the day whilst his working from home so he does no nights so my daily schedule is really tight and he does no housework since I had the baby

I see why you’re on antidepressants.

Hurtful. Never justified to say something hurtful. Tell him that at 2 months postpartum your body is still recovering and it can take 6-9 months for hormones to stabilize. You just brought your child into this world for almost a year sacrificed your body. Tell him he owes you a year of love and appreciation for your child

Also you need to revisit the division of responsibilities. Ask him to take your child for a full day or have him take an overnight so he can understand the exhaustion of sleep deprivation that comes with the early stages. Talk about what has to be done first Then divide it. When I do it I ask my husband what he’s comfortable doing. When my list is too big I tell him I’m overwhelmed and ask him to decide what he can do to make our loads more even

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