Struggling

Hi, just want to know if I’m overreacting, is it me? I am finding this phase really stressful and I am finding it hard with patience throughout the day. My baby boy is 9.5 months old, never been a great sleeper, the most he does is around 3-4 hours and that’s on a good night, it all went worse recently since he started settling in sessions at nursery and we’ve had hand foot and mouth, stomach bug and 2 colds in 4 weeks. Just coming back on solids now after refusing food for a while during the illness period, I am scared it will all get worse again in 2 weeks when he starts nursery properly. Separation anxiety is kicking in and he is very keen on trying to walk, he is cruising all around the house now and is quite a daredevil taking risks and throwing himself to the abyss, he is climbing on the sofa, getting himself inside his toy box, its quite funny but I feel like I haven’t slept in a year, the illnesses period has been so hard, I got back to work last month, he is refusing all kinds of sleep, bedtime takes ages, he is up so many times during the night, he fights all nappy changes, clothes changes, the tantrums are real when he doesn’t get what he wants, he has no chill whatsoever. I have no support network around me and I get no breaks, I have no time to shower or do any minimal type of self care, I am starting to feel really overwhelmed, sometimes I see people with 3 or 4 children and I wonder if it’s me, what am I doing wrong? Why am I finding it so hard? Other mums usually told me it gets easier and I am just finding harder and harder since around 6 months when he started to crawl and his energy levels spiked. Sorry I guess this is more of a rant than anything, sometimes I also wonder if this is PPD and haven’t identified it yet.

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It is really hard. I get that same feeling of how do others do it when they have multiple kids. I don’t have a support network either and honestly that makes all the difference. When you have to do everything it’s so overwhelming and it is understandable that you find it hard to keep up sometimes, especially when you’re back at work and sleep deprived. No advice really but I feel you mama and I hope things settle down for you soon ❤️

I have a network and not even back to work yet and still feel like how and why would anyone choose to do this more than once!

There is a lot going on at the moment, for you, and your little man. He doesn't know how to manage his emotions and the only way he knows how, is Mama. I know that may be not what you want to hear, but when things are uncertain for him, you are his safe space, his constant, you show up for him, scoop him up and everything is right again in his little world. He just doesn't understand that you're a hot mess trying to juggle him, and work and a house, social life etc! I have 3 children and it is so tough, I'm back to work in 3 weeks and I honestly don't know how I'll cope. However, I have a very supportive team of colleagues who notice when I'm struggling and I can talk to them. Do you have someone you can lean on at work? Because other mums have been there, it's not all what you see on Instagram, but we're all just doing our best xx

I totally understand... My baby girl is the same. Been a very bad sleeper since birth. She wakes me up dozens of times every night and getting her to sleep is a disaster every time! I feel shattered every day and it just feels like i will never sleep:( You are not alone, all babies are different, some are easier than others. Its not your fault he sleeps like that, i hope that its just a phase and we will both get some rest soon🥲

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