Would you tell him?

I finally got to meet my in-laws this holiday block leave and holy hell they are weird. But here’s the situation I find myself in. My grandma in law was very adamant about running errands with only me the other day which was fine but then she told me all the skeletons in the family closet that related to my husband. Like I knew he had a crap childhood because his dad was a POS. However they told him his dad was in the army and would hype him up as this special forces guy always leaving on missions when in reality he was in rehab or a psych hospital. The only reason my husband joined the army was to make his dad proud and follow his footsteps. He doesn’t know that his dad never had a military career. Should I tell him or just keep my mouth shut.
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ask yourself what would he truly benefit from the truth. would it make him a better man or would it break him and bring absolutely nothing good? at this point you can’t change his past, if he’s a good guy now, happy, thriving, proud of himself, i don’t think it’s wise to ruin what he has going on. if you tell him the truth it would probably only worsen things. there are some situations where i think it’s important to know the truth but in cases like this..it benefits nobody and he may be better off never knowing

keep it to yourself, act like it’s a possible story of someone’s life. you can’t trust what others say all of the time… i think it’s better to act like you never heard that story before to not cause any problems for you and your husband in the dynamic or emotional level.

If it were me I would be furious at my husband for not telling me. How would you feel if it’s the vise versa? ( this might sound rude in writing, in person it would sound nicer I’m sorry)

In all honesty, I think that's not your story to tell. If his family hasn't told him, to tell him now wouldn't benefit anyone.

@Kelly well that’s the kicker my husband has no idea. He thinks his dad is some well to do army guy with a drinking problem.

@quiddo you’re right. I just feel bad watching him trying to rank up and be some badass army guy like his dad and hearing him brag to others about his dad.

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