Twin worries

Hi, I am 40 next year and already have two children, one in high school and one in primary. I’ve loved having children and have struggled with them getting bigger and things changing so we decided to have one more baby. Fast forward and I am now 28 weeks pregnant with twins. Shock does not describe how we felt when we were told we would be jumping from a family of 4 to 6. We both have good jobs but I lie awake worrying about money and how we are going to afford to dress everyone. I also feel really guilty about the life I feel I have taken away from my other children and the sacrifices we will now have to make. It sounds very ungrateful and terrible but I do worry we’ve done the wrong thing. Anyone else feeling like this?

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All kids wants is love and quality time! That fact that you’re a united family should be the only thing that matters. There’s charity and second hand shops now so I wouldn’t worry about money. There’s always a way

Everything will fall into place you can’t let worry turn into fear if you weren’t capable of making it happen with 4 kiddos it wouldn’t be happening enjoy these moments ! Money isn’t everything and there are more resources available now more then ever .. don’t get caught up on what social media or other peoples life’s and situations you got this mama

This is totally me fast forward forward a year , I have 1 year old twins one in primary and one about to start secondary in sep, and just turned 43 , I won’t lie it’s been tough , and a huge adjustment for all of us, it’s also harder as I’m a lot older from when I had the other two , but would I change it ……..never , there’s more love in my house than there’s ever been xx

Thanks girls, I know I’ll be fine once they are here, just some times feel so overwhelmed and I don’t no anyone with twins so feel like no one really understands.

I don’t know anyone with twins, and honestly I have found people without twins really don’t understand. At times it is tough, but naturally looking after two babies it is going to be. But, you have two, so you know the ropes to a degree. A good routine will support everyone in the family as will self compassion and unity. You sound as though family is very important to you, so you will absolutely make it work. Don’t let the (natural) worry overshadow this, you wanted another baby and you got two, what a miracle! ❤️

Mamma to 8 kids all different ages but 3 babies (non bio triplets) they have additional needs and so do 2 of my others. It feels huge right now for you but I promise it will be ok. Remeber babies will slot into your routine currently . People think twins is alot and it does sound alot but I premise with a routine, shopping around a bit you will be just fine. I dont know where about you live bur look on eBay, Facebook, vinted etc theirs loads of Facebook groups for multiple mamma's who donate and sell things cheap . Charity shops etc You will be just fine but allow yourself to feel those emotions and don't feel guilty it's totally normal