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FET help !

Hello Looking for some help and advice, Hoping to have my first FET next week and just wondering any best advice for pre and post transfer ?

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Affordability of a second child?

Hi! My little one is about to turn two in January and I can’t help but feel a deep longing to have a second child. That said, it is financially challenging to have a second one. My husband and I both work full time and make a good living, but paying for child care and living life overall costs so much. Not sure if i...

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First FET

Hey ladies, going for my first FET tomorrow any recommendations to do before or after? I have acupuncture booked which I have being doing for a good while now which I love and helps me relax. Anyone else going in tomorrow we can be transfer buddies

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Preparing for FET

Hi all. I am preparing for a first frozen embryo transfer in January and would be really interested to hear how you prepared, lifestyle, diet or supplements wise. I’m particularly interested in whether you used probiotics and if so what. Would be very grateful for any advice. Thank you.

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Sweep

Am I allowed to request a sweep? 40wks tomorrow. And low risk. But I’m feeling the aches, restless nights, and fed up. Is this something I can request?

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Can we have some encouraging stories about how going from 1-2 kids was a lot easier than 0-1 please?

I’m having my second in January and I don’t really have family nearby but a very hands on supporting husband. We found 0-1 pretty difficult…

Incognito
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Sweep

I have a sweep booked a week Monday and I'm so nervous. Does it hurt? How long does it take etc? Thanks!

Incognito
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Almost 4 days past a 6 day embaby transfer

My transfer was Monday at 1230pm, this test was taken Friday at 6am.. 🥰

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Parents with black or mixed boy

I sincerely apologize for how this is going to sound. Mostly requesting advice from other moms raising mixed or black boys. Have you had the chance to speak to your son about racism? If yes at what age? The reason I'm asking is that I had an uncomfortable conversation with my son's teacher which has me wondering i...

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How do you handle feelings of guilt associated with parenting?

A) I talk about it with friends B) I try to rationalize my choices C) I ignore the feelings D) other

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Do you believe in phrase stay for the kids?

I know I don't

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Only children?

My son is 2.5 and he will be an only child for multiple reasons, financial, lack of support, health concerns… I could go on… As he’s getting older I’m feeling more and more guilt about the fact he’ll have no siblings. I’m the eldest of 3 and my husband is middle of 3. Neither of us particularly enjoyed having sibli...

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Visitors when baby is born

This is my second baby but my first was born during summer. I can’t shake off the feeling of all the winter bugs going round and not wanting loads of visitors, I don’t even want people to hold my baby when they come is that bad. The thought of it fills me with rage and people are already saying how they can’t wait t...

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Do you thank your partner for changing your child’s nappy?

Or do you feel like cos it’s their child too, why should I thank them?

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Positive stories

I’ve just had my egg retrieval and only got 2 eggs, looking for success or positive stories with a similar retrieval amount?!

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Transfer

Anyone want to connect and chat who has a transfer around mid December ? Tentatively scheduled FET transfer Dec 19

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Imposter

I'm a first-time mom to a nearly 9-week-old, and I still feel like such an imposter who doesn't know what they're doing. Am I taking care of her right? It feels like we've made it this far by sheer luck, and it could all fall apart at any moment. Does this feeling ever go away, or am I truly doing something wrong?

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UK Passport

We’re getting our passports and it has asked us for my maternal parents details, but I don’t know my “real” dad would you just leave it in blank or fill out my step dads?

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Do you think more kids means being happier?

Debating whether to have another baby or stick with my one and only :)

Incognito
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FET worries

So I have my 3rd FET on Monday, and I’m worried more so bc I work Tuesday and Wednesday and due to meetings and other things I cannot take those days off… long story short with all my other transfers I always rested a few days after but this time I can’t and I’m worried it would effect my results. My current fertil...

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