In laws picking favorites
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My fiancés parents don’t acknowledge my son.. so I’m saying something next time she wants to be rude… I’ll remind her she has another grandchild and I won’t be nice.. just know you aren’t alone..
Yup. My SIL's kids can get away with doing something after being clearly told 16 times NOT to do it), but I've had to tell my MIL off for trying to spank my daughter for things she should not be even almost getting in trouble for (once was when she was sitting on MY lap, playing WITH ME, instead of sitting in front of the TV to watch some movie MIL had put on for her). MIL and FIL are always willing to babysit SIL's kids, but always seem to have some sort of excuse when asked to babysit mine (except for when MIL was temporarily being paid to do it...ask me how many times she's expected payment for babysitting the other grandkids 🙃). MIL occasionally will mention that she wants to have my daughter spend the night with them, but she'll never actually make any attempt to make plans, even when I flat-out say, "That's fine, just let us know when."
You're not alone, unfortunately. Baby hasn't even been born yet, and my MIL already seems to not care about LO as much as she does her other grandkids. I know it's her 5th grandson (only boys so far), but it's our first kid, and I know it might be different because it's her son's kid and not a daughters, but her other son has 2 and she loves them alot (even before they were born), and her step daughter's 2 boys also, telling everyone about them, and sharing photos, and traveling to visit them, but not us. Honestly, it bothers me, but I know my family is super excited and showing all their love ahead of time and will more than make up for it, I just feel bad for my husband, because he does feel hurt that she doesn't seem to care about our baby, or even about when she'll meet him (hasn't even asked about visiting at all and due date is in 2 weeks). Especially since we know she went to visit her stepdaughter right after she had her kids. I just feel bad for my husband.
If you have a good relationship, it may just take a little while for them to bond. As above I’m sure there are a lot of people who would have ‘favourites’ but hoping for you that as they see your little one grow, they will become as attached to the others. Wishing you the best! x
Yup! My MIL told me, years ago, that if my husband and I ever had children they wouldn't be treated the same as her granddaughter because her granddaughter is special. They now have that granddaughter (11), a step-granddaughter (12), and a grandson (1.5). The hierarchy goes something like this: Granddaughter Grandson Step-granddaughter It's a depressing state of affairs. Thankfully, all of the aunties/uncles treat all of the children equally. It's just MIL who doesn't.
I know how you feel; as im in the sa.e boat. I feel my in laws favourite husbands sisters kid more than ours
So I've refused to let them see her on videos calls. They also have no respect for me. I've blocked them from seeing my WhatsApp photo and status so they can't see her.
My dad and his wife favours her granddaughter. It sucks so much. No advice, just know you’re not alone. If my kids ever calls it out or notices, I plan on cutting them off completely. But I am playing nice until then.