My MIL says it’s not normal having my mum with me in labour (I’m Indian she’s Caucasian)
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It’s totally normal, she just doesn’t like it 😂 ignore her & don’t feel pressured to listen to her, she’s bitter and projecting
My mum has been both of my births and the plan is for her to be at my third in April too. She’s just jealous 😂
That’s totally normal! My MIL was mad my mom got to be there and she didn’t. I’m Caucasian and she’s Indian. 🤷🏻♀️
You can have whoever you want with you when you have your baby. It is normal she’s just jealous she wasn’t chosen lmao
I had my mom with me for all 3 of my births! Not weird at all! Definitely an MIL thing 🙄
Girl, you HAVE to be comfortable and at ease during labour and if that means you want your mum or your whole family there, no one can ever say anything. And whoever does, just tell the midwives not to let them near you at all times. I’m having my mum and hubby only. Hubby cos it’s his child and mum because I need my mothers support. She knows me and what’s best and she’s had the experience before. Let her talk, in the end it’s YOUR birth and YOUR child. She had her turn.
I think this is something you need to have a real conversation with your husband about. This isn’t something that she should feel so passionate about when it has nothing to do with her. You weren’t asking her to be there, she isn’t wanting to be there. She is literally trying to dictate how you go through your birth. Your husband needs to start standing up for your individual family now, or this is going to be the rest of your life.
It’s weird that she’s white and saying having mom there is weird. That’s the norm for us…
Tbh I had my daughter six months ago and it’s just always played on my mind whether it was normal or not but from what all you lovely women are saying it is I always felt like I was going against with everything I do for my baby because she’s so obsessed with my daughter she’s really weird like I understand it’s her first grandchild but she’s gone in moods with me not giving her a bath when she was born just because she wanted to take a picture and me telling her not to post her on fb I don’t really trust her to take care of her properly she didn’t clean her nappy properly as a newborn got milk under her neck isn’t confident to bath her takes forever to put her to bed in my own home my husband doesn’t say anything but in my own culture it’s known for the man to approach his own family about issues I don’t want to cause problems by coming of as a B….. I don’t even know how to tell her I don’t like half the things she says and does I don’t want to be rude or mean
She still posts her on fb which pisses me off and my husband says nothing even though we all agreed she wouldn’t it’s getting exhausting my husband doesn’t listen to me he just shuts me down I have nothing against her I think she’s nice at times but she’s definitely a psycho constantly ringing and texting
Actually, that's absolutely normal. Take it from a white girl who had her mom (and MIL, actually) with her during labor. I don't actually know anyone (white or otherwise) who DIDN'T have her mom with her.
@Sarah I didn’t but that’s only because I went in to labor early and she’s 9 hours away.
I only had my husband as I’m not close with my mum but if I was and she was nice I could imagine having her there but wouldn’t want my MIL there that is weird and uncomfortable as she micro Manages everything and my mum used to do what was necessary to make me feel better like when I was sick and knows me better
My mum was one of my birth partners with my husband, it’s absolutely normal. Anything the birthing person wants is totally normal, whether you wanted somewhere there or not. The person giving birth gets to chose, sounds like your MIL is saying that through jealousy because your mum will ‘meet’ baby first.
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I had my mum and partner in the delivery room
Once upon a time it "wasn't normal" to have your husband at the birth! But now that's who most people would choose... To have your mother there is absolutely normal! You need the people you trust, to create a calm loving environment and help you through it. That's often your mum... Tell your husband to grow a back bone and tell his mum to butt out!
It's normal. My sister got more offended that I said I jist wanted it to be me and my partner. Wheb I started to have complications that's when I called my mum in and my mum was okay with that. I said to my partner no pictures to be sent until we donit together. Wouldn't be surprised if he sent one right away as I was stuck in theatres and didn't get to meet my LG for 2 hours.
Lots of women have their mother present. If it’s what you want it’s what you want x
My husband and my mom were both at my delivery and it was so helpful having both of them
I had my mom in the room for my birth and I know my MIL was bothered she didn’t get to see the baby right away but I didn’t care. The birth is about you and baby and you want whatever will make the experience best for you!
Honestly, MIL what’s not normal? Is you having such a strong opinion about how I choose to labor and who I choose to have there. I hope you know that my partner and I will be making the parenting decisions for our child, and we don’t need to hear about how we are doing things wrong. If you are only going to be here to provide negativity, we will need to evaluate how much mental space we have to be around that.