MIL in the delivery room?
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Who will watch your son if she can’t? I don’t see what’s wrong with that
Absolutely nothing wrong with that, it's your birth. Also, asking her to watch your son will hopefully keep any feelings she might have away, since someone needs to watch your son and it's an important job.
What if she will refuse to look after your son? She might do the same to you and not want that I'm sure she won't feel good if she will find out that you choose your best friend to be there and not her
You’re not wrong at all. You should absolutely have everything and everyone you want in the room. Yes! Ask her to watch your baby at home cause if she wants to help that’s the best way
You can have who ever you want. Just because she was there for the first doesn’t mean she gets to automatically be at every birth.
@Jay so it’s not the worst relationship it’s just ever since my son was born her attitude has changed and she’ll say stupid comments about what my husband and I do for our son and “well we didn’t do that for Alex when he was a baby” and it’s just the most irritating things she’ll do! She bought a stroller for my son and literally said “oh it’s the best stroller ever but you can’t have it… it stays in my car” (we already have a stroller). She just acts rude but not sure is she realizes it’s rude or not tbh.
@Cristina so I have a feeling she might be upset and refuse but I’m hoping that’s not the case!
@Jade my older brother will probably watch him if she can’t… but I just didn’t want him to be responsible for him for 1-2 days depending on how long I’ll be in labor/delivery.
When you’re at your most vulnerable you 100% shouldn’t have anyone there that doesn’t make you feel 100% comfortable. If she’s upset, that’s her issue.
You’re definitely NOT (Edit 😅😅😅)wrong. And great that you can allocate watching your son to her 👌🏻👍🏻💕
You do what you want. You are most important here. Your wishes...boundaries are priority.
Your not wrong .
Maybe sit down and talk to her your 100% entitled to feel the way you feel, also explain to her you don't have anyone to watch your oldest if she can do it.. maybe tell her once you have the baby she can come to the hospital...
No one is entitled to be in the birth room with you, if they are upset that is 100% about them unless you present it in an unkind way. If you ask her to watch LO and she declines don't take it personal
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You are not wrong. I don’t want anyone in the room except my husband