Infidelity

My “fiancé” had a one night stand while I was 7 months. I found out recently at 9 months. Whoever has gone through this, how did you forgive, if you did? How did you move on from this? Did you stay for the sake of your family/ your new born? I am completely at lost on how to navigate. He wants to make it work, supposedly. Part of me is out the door and the other part wants to make it work because there is “love” and most importantly for the baby.
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Don’t stay in the relationship for the sake of your family or newborn. Because eventually you will feel a lot of resentment and lack or trust in the relationship, and you’ll feel trapped. You can still coparent for your child and children are happy when they see their parents happy. My child’s father cheated on me when we were together during my first trimester and I still feel resentment even tho I broke up with him. It’s hard and feels lonely but it’s worth it, because I don’t have to hear all the lies and I don’t feel drained anymore being with him

Firstly, you're brave for opening up about this situation. You're showing you're strong already! Personally, even though I wasn't pregnant, I was cheated on 7 times in the end as I kept forgiving. They try to blame you. They try to lie and worm their way out of the guilt and hurt they caused you. Honestly, if he couldn't communicate before the cheating, then he won't communicate after. Co parenting would be great for your mental health and the well-being of the little one in the future. You do have to put yourself and baby first in this scenario. Don't stay because you feel obligated. You do have to have a conversation, though, because if he has done it once, yes, he might not do it again, but the doubt seed is planted. He has made his bed. I hope you make the right choice for your little family cc

Don’t stay in the relationship for the sake of your mental health and the baby . If you stay it would only cause problems for you and him and the baby will see all that . If he did it once , he is going to do it gain because he knows that you’ll forgive him .

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