in Nevada
Friends after motherhood
How’re you guys handling losing your friends after becoming a mother? My high school best friend since 2015 no longer talks to me and doesn’t invite me to anything anymore, I get we’re in different stages of life but it still sucks and I often keep myself awake at night thinking about it. I don’t know how to make friends because I’m super shy at first. It doesn’t help that I had to set my location to a different area because no one is in Winnemucca on this app.
I know this post was 2 months ago but I just wanted to comment, my friends all abandoned me when I had my son. Some stuck around before but when he came I haven’t seen nobody. It honestly didn’t shock me. People will disappoint you always. I truly stopped having expectations of people after that. I was crying newly post partum because I felt like the only one who couldn’t keep my friends. Then come to find out I wasn’t, and actually how common it is. After I normalized that I realized your family becomes your village. I immersed myself deeply in the role of motherhood and partner. Got so focused I haven’t thought about friends in months. What helped? Finding a little part time job, being busy 24-7. Sometimes I call one of my friends every other Saturday. Maybe since yall are in different stages maybe just try phone calls for now since you miss her, it doesn’t have to be completely over.