I'm so overtired and sad...and here in the Netherlands I don't feel assisted and helped enough by doctors. They don't run the tests and is always a fight to ask to have some checks done
Iām so incredibly sorry for your lossesšš¢ Iāve had 4 miscarriages (1 was missed) and it was extremely hard to have hope again. My last one was just months full of horrible things so I honestly didnāt know if I was going to make it through. I ended up talking to a therapist for a little bit which honestly didnāt help much. I tend to keep my feelings bottled up inside, but I decided to just say how Iām feeling and talk about it with my family and my husband. Not staying silent is what helped me the most and coming on here seeing I wasnāt alone. Once I was feeling a bit better I started doing aqua fit with my mom which was nice because it was an hour out of the day where my mind was occupied and I didnāt feel sad. Keeping myself busy was a big help too because otherwise I would have just laid in bed depressed 24/7. You should try and push to have testing done. I had it done and everything came back normal, but a fertility doctor put me and my husband on certain supplements and meds
Which resulted in me finally being able to make it to the second trimester. Itās so frustrating when your body isnāt doing what itās meant to do. At least with the testing I knew itās not genetics and my insides are working like they should and we wouldnāt of had the opportunity to be put on supportive medication if we didnāt get referred to the specialist. Donāt forget to let yourself feel and cry when you need to and do whatās best for youā¤ļø
Thanks Sarah for sharing your experience. Unfortunately here in the Netherlands doctors don't do a lot of prevention and are always reluctant in making tests. I had to fight and I have made some, will get feedback at the end of the month. But honestly I've lost trust in them and still I don't know if they're doing all the checks. Also, I had a healthy pregnancy already so they just say "now it's bad luck". If I don't get answers I'll go to Italy and will see a specialist there
@Gaia thatās so terrible Iām so sorry thereās no supportš¢ Iām in Canada and itās protocol to be referred to a specialist once youāve had 3 miscarriages in a row. I hope you can get the help you need! In the meantime just focus on letting yourself healā¤ļø
Thanks Sarah āŗļø
Ive had 1 missed miscarriage, 2 miscarriages and 6 chemicals. The mmc was the most horrific, my body didnāt respond to surgery or medication which meant I was continuously miscarrying for 3 months and in incredible pain. And of course an emotional mess. Iām young, and because of this the doctors have refused to do investigation until now - I know the advice is hit and miss but I have found TikTok super useful. Thereās so many women and doctors on there who talk about different supplements, medicines and their experiences (obviously do your own research), but info I found on there has helped myself and I my partner. I try to keep busy but sometimes I need to be in a sad hole and scrolling listening to other people talk about the same experience does help to get out the emotions
Thanks for sharing @Jessica ..The MMC is an awful experience and honestly I did one the tablets to induce the miscarriage and it ended up in a big trauma, very painful and I almost lost consciousness due to the blood loss, and eventually I had to undergo a curettage anyway. I wouldn't advise that in 2024 at all, I find it inhuman! I totally get you when you talk abou the "sad hole". I feel & hug you š¤
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Never never, lose hope š¤š sending lots of love, so sorry youāre going through this xx